In grade nine, I met a girl that I became really good friends. While I am a social person, I've never really been more than an acquaintance to a girl so it was a new experience for me. Towards the end of the year, we somehow told one another that we liked each other and I feel that decision was quite costly. After going out for a short time, she broke up with me due to it being a distraction from studying. I tried to accept the decision and I eventually did it was fine. It was the friendship that was lost that really got to me and that's where I want to try and reconcile. Its been three years since and I can honestly say that I have never liked anyone else more than this girl. There is simply no girl I respect so much as a person as she always who wants to get things done and has her priorities set straight( ironic yes) and is kind to everyone. In those three years, we have been friendly to one another and have even had 10-15 minute conversation before school starts. I'm certain that she wants to be friends as well its just the issue of coming across friendly rather than looking for a relationship. The issue is that we can talk easily when we're alone but when others come it's not as much weird as it is busy so to speak. I feel as if I could ask her to lunch one day we could get everything settled over a long talk, and I've thought this through and it seems like a practical solution. The issue is how to do so and if it would seem random or perhaps creepy. btw- this is the only relationship either of us have been in if that helps answer this question. Next year we'll most likely be going to the same university but if we're not friends we won't see much of one another. I've had three years and before that to look around and I can honestly say that I don't want to lose this girl I respect so much. I won't say that the thought of relationship hasn't crossed my mind but I don't want to once again jeopardize any friendship we may have. I want to be friends with this girl for life and regardless of what you may say of getting to know other people, once again I have a had a very good look around and there is no one that gets my respect more than her.

and once again I know that we both want to be friends but the issue talking in front of other people. When we're( which is rare) we can easily strike up a conversation and we can say short phrase so to speak to one another in class but the issue is being able to talk in front of other people just cause of the nature of the conversation in that instance and I suppose a bit of awkwardness.

appreciate all responses and advice