why did she not say anything back.

[wildhare]

The girl i like asked me how i felt about her and the weird situation we have. So I told her how I felt and she said nothing back. I spoke from the heart and meant every word I said to her. I just don’t understand how she could say nothing. I was hanging out with some of her friends and they asked if they could read what I said her and it turns out that what I said was very sweet and romantic. they don’t even understand how she didn’t say anything back. So can someone please give me some information .

here is what i told her

i know that people think you are making a mistake by choosing that other guy. but i don't believe anything anyone does i a mistake. you can date him and you could have a great relationship or it end badly with someone getting hurt but it wont be a mistake. cause you would have done what you wanted and that will never be a what if in your life. i will have made you a stronger and wiser person and you will grow as a person so where is the mistake in that. As for us i think i sucks we never got a chance to see what would have happen. the other night when i said we would never have worked i did not mean it i was upset.i truly enjoy spending time with you i think you are amazing and we would of had so fun together.i know you thought i just wanted to be friends. it's just that i think you should be friends with someone before you date the otherwise how could you be together. but i would love to be more than friend if you would let me. And one of the biggest regrets i have is not kissing you that night we stay up till 3 in the morning talking on the floor and then trying to comfort you more when you were sick in the bathroom from that horrible cChinesefood we had. i do care for you and always will i'm just sorry i did not tell you the first time you asked. i hope you can fforgiveme and hope we can still be friends

[bloodtippedrose]

There could be ALOT of different reasons why she has not replied. This is why I would recommend talking to people in person or at least over the phone, because even if they don't say anything back you can gauge their reaction by their expressions or tones.

She might feel that since she made it clear to you that she chose someone else, that there is nothing left to be said to you.
She might feel like she needs to think things over and not respond until shes fully thought of an appropriate response.
She might be deciding if she wants to be your friend or not.
She might be creeped out that you're so into being with her as to hang around her friends and ask them questions that she doesn't even want to be anywhere near you (like you're a stalker)
She might feel like crap over what she did to you and thinks anything she says will only make it worse

Basically we aren't mind readers! The only way you can find out what's shes thinking or feeling is to ask her, preferably not through email or texting.

[Cerby]

I think you said too much, its hard to digest even reading it. Perhaps she didn't fully understand what you were saying and simply couldn't reply?

Just my $0.02

[wildhare]

that would be creepy if i was hanging out with her friends if i had met them after i met her but i knew them long before i knew her and i am not going to stop hanging out with them just cause of her. also they are the ones who wanted to hook us up.

[bloodtippedrose]

that would be creepy if i was hanging out with her friends if i had met them after i met her but i knew them long before i knew her and i am not going to stop hanging out with them just cause of her. also they are the ones who wanted to hook us up.

I was just making an assumption based on you saying "I was hanging out with some of her friends." instead of you saying 'our friends'. Its not like I was actually calling you a stalker.

[vashti]

i usually become silent when I think the other party has said too much, and I am unsure of how to respond. Declarations like you made are only welcome if the person who says it is someone we are interested in.

[wildhare]

sorry about the poor word choice. this whole thing is just so confuseing. cause she said she likes me and has a great time with me but is confused. and that other guy is cheating by playing the "i have a broken life and need your help to get it back together" and she falls for that all the time and keeps getting hurt.

[bethbengoa]

yea after i read all of that im sorry but i think you got a little too into detail and it got a little creepy. Some girls dont like their guy to go all soft on them.

[bloodtippedrose]

sorry about the poor word choice. this whole thing is just so confuseing. cause she said she likes me and has a great time with me but is confused. and that other guy is cheating by playing the "i have a broken life and need your help to get it back together" and she falls for that all the time and keeps getting hurt.

She'll grow out of it. Unfortunately you can't change her before she learns it on her own. I think we all [females] went through the whole "He NEEDS me" phase. Best think you can do for yourself is distance yourself from her and try to move on.

[wildhare]

i have come to realize that's what i need to do. it just started off so great with her and i thought i could get that back but i guess not and thanks for all tha advice.