Help

[kat1203]

ok, so I found on two separate occasions, my boyfriend looking at porn videos on his phone, I don't like this. Should I confront him or not. Keep in mind that it is notas easy as finding it on a computer, it was his phone so he will know that I snooped. Help!

[Stillits]

Guys look at porn. That's just a fact. I'd suggest you accept this as a fact and learn to live with it (as long as your sexlife isn't neclegted because of it) and don't snoop around in his private things anymore.

[kat1203]

I guess. We def dont have sex as often as we use to in the beginning but I guess it just died down. If I didn't snoop I wouldn't have found out. He can look at any of my stuff and any time, I have nothing to hide.

[jessld]

Porn is porn. Maybe u guys should watch it together. Spice things up. And than ur not feeling bad bout him watching it on his own ur there make it more fun for him. Looking is okay, guys will n will always look

[devonbrown]

Why did you snoop in the first place? Was there something he did to make you suspicious? Were you looking for a reason to start an argument?

Think about this - if you confront him about this (if it is so egregious to your moral code that you feel you MUST tell him about seeing it), then be prepared for the argument to quickly shift to why aren't you trusting him. Which is the more important argument, actually. You say you have nothing to hide from him. Maybe he feels he has nothing to hide from you either. But there are some things that every person does on his or her own. Do you invite him into the bathroom when you are dropping the deuce?

Good luck.

[kat1203]

Not sure why I snoop. When I found out he was looking at that, it made me feel inadequate.

[hello1]

Look all women snoop, don't feel guilty about that. I find it strange he got porn on his phone

[Saya]

Not sure how long you two have been together, but... if there is something you don't like then I think you should be open and talk about it with your bf.

Some guys doesn't need to watch porn if they are having enough sex with their partner, but some guys will always watch porn even tho they are still having enough sex...
If you two aren't having sex often then he probably will watch porn more often than usual....

If you want to bring up the conversation about he has porn in his phone then, tell him something like, you were using his phone to look through some of your pics/video or something and found porn?
But I agree, all women snoop.
But yea a bit strange that he has porn in his phone....

[ShellyZ]

Guys watch porn. It has nothing to do with you. Even if you two had the hottest, most passionate, most awesome sex all the time, he would still look at porn. Not because you're inadequate, but because guys like porn.