should i end it before it gets serious

**DarkHelmet82** · 08-04-11, 12:29 AM

yeah... good point cerby... Im sure when the time is right If i need too I will mention it... It just seems odd to not completly remove an ex who she apparently (according to her was a jerk and a weirdo.)

**Cerby** · 08-04-11, 12:58 AM

Just pick your battles. My longest relationship I had my ex had at least 3 ex bfs on her facebook and occasionally talked to one of them on the phone. I didn't bring it up until we were commited to the relationship (about 5 months in) because I didn't want to scare her off. At that point I knew a little thing like that wouldn't result in a big battle, and it didn't. She just told me not to worry about it and to trust her. After that I never brought it up again and it was never an issue. We ended over something completely different 3 years in.

Always pick your battles, this one isn't one worth fighting. You have her now, work on now.

**steviej** · 08-04-11, 01:05 AM

She's only been split up a month, she might need contact details to sort out any stuff they have of each others that needs giving back, if they lived together there are bills that need sorting, taking her name off accounts etc.

I'm one of those people who never deletes a number, i just can't be bothered! I have ex gf's in my phone that i wouldn't ever ring or text, but the numbers are still in there. You know how i feel about my current gf, so not everyone who has ex's in their phone has them there for sordid reasons!

**DarkHelmet82** · 08-04-11, 01:12 AM

Thanks guys.. you both bring up good points... I feel better...

**DarkHelmet82** · 08-04-11, 04:47 AM

Heres are my issues...

1. what kind of person gets engaged so fast (7months) and then gets over it just as fast....
2. Shouldnt i be worried about someone who can fall in and out of love so quickly?

**steviej** · 08-04-11, 05:45 PM

1. Honeymoon period! Head in the clouds, reality far away, is she quite inexperienced with relationships? Maybe she got caught up in the moment. What kind of guy would propose so soon? To me that answers question 2, because to me it shouts insecure, possibly controlling and other issues.

At some point she came to her senses and realised this, realised 'wtf am i doing!' And got out of there.

We all have the capacity to fall in and out of love very, very quickly. It just takes the right circumstances to completely kill your feelings for someone. You are just as capable of this as she is.

Try to not overthink things too much! It's going well, keep it fun and build that connection with her!

**DarkHelmet82** · 09-04-11, 04:40 AM

no she has had a good amount of relationships... But I think you are right... I am overthinking.. I have a good time when im with her and thats all that matters at this point.. Thanks stevie

**Horseyguy** · 09-04-11, 11:58 AM

Hi DH

Dude, step away from the cookie jar!!!

Just enjoy yourself. She sounds great and is at least being honest with you and mate, you need to give her something so she's doesn't think about him anymore and you need something good so you don't need to think about your ex either.

Have a ball, enjoy this getting to know each other stage and just be yourself that's all you should be doing right now.

Please don't start double guessing yourself and overthinking this, you deserve some good, take it and embrace it

**DarkHelmet82** · 10-04-11, 03:09 AM

Horseguy.. said that like a true prophet.. thanks...

**DarkHelmet82** · 11-04-11, 10:32 PM

Things are great.. thanks for the advice guys... One thing she told me was that she is stage2 bipolar (which is less severe).. but it doesnt bother me.. I am glad she told me as I can at least look for signs and not wonder why she may or may not act a certain way.

One thing I like a lot about this girl is her honesty and the fact that she is always upfront.

**Horseyguy** · 12-04-11, 05:31 AM

until she smacks you accross the head with a frying pan, says sorry and makes love to you

Sorry couldn't resist. I have a friend with stage2 bipolar, it's very manageable and if you know she has it that really helps

**steviej** · 12-04-11, 06:14 AM

Now is a good time to brush up on your knowledge of stage 2 bipolar

**DarkHelmet82** · 12-04-11, 08:27 PM

haha yeah apparently... but its going good. thanks for the advice all

**DarkHelmet82** · 15-04-11, 03:36 AM

things going great... shes kinda hot and cold.. but thats expected

**steviej** · 15-04-11, 06:08 PM

So when do we get to see pics of this girl then?

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