i've been going out with my boyfriend for 6 months now, I met him online on a dating site, he lives in a different city from me with his dad (but not too far away) and his mum lives in the same city as me. everything started out great, we only met up at the weekends we would go into town in the shops, have a coffee ect..
started to get more serious and I started staying at his mums house with him, we would have sex about 2/3 times a day on the 3 days a week that I see him (friday, sturday and sunday),then money got tight and we couldn't afford to go out anymore, so we would stay in and bake instead. about 3 months in he started getting lazy, he would go on his xbox for hours and ignore me and I noticed that he no longer tried touch me to get me in the mood, and alot of the time when i would try he would tell me he's not in the mood but i put that down to him being upset about his nan dying.
it picked back up but now it has gotten even worse than before since he's found his work experience placement about a month ago, he has been getting my hopes up by telling me he is coming to see me then doesn't bother telling me he can't until last minute, and he only tells me if I contact him, I seem to have to arrange everything and do the chasing, the other day I told him it was making me very upset and he said 'well if it makes you that upset, why don't you dump me and go off with one of those other lads you always talk about, my life couldn't get much worse anyway' I don't talk to him about any other lads, he has asked me on a couple of occasions about 2 months ago about a couple of my guy mates that I was talking to over facebook, one of which fancies me, I told him that they were just school mates and told him that i wasn't interested in them. what he said made me incredibly upset and i told him again that I want him, not anyone else, explained to him how much he means to me, he is the only person that I have trusted enough to tell all my secrets and somehow be naked infront of which is very difficult for me. he told me if it was going to work I would have to accept that he might not be able to come down every weekend, fine I said 'fair enough but you have to let me know if you won't be because it's not fair to get my hopes up'
he then said we were having too much sex and he felt like our relationship was based on it. I told him that it is important for me because if makes me feel like we are connected as its something that we do only with each other, he said that we didn't need to do it 5+ times a day to feel connected, but we haven't been having that much, last time we did it about 3 times a day as I hadn't seen him in 2 weeks and I was due on and I get alot hornier around that time, but usually we don't do it that much, why is he saying that we do it too much when majority of men wouldn't pass up sex and/or say they aren't getting enough? I am almost 17 and he is 20, also 2 weeks ago his step dad, who is in his 40's, sexually assulted me, started rubbing my nipples through my nighty and asked me to get my breasts out for him but didn't of course, which he knows about, do you think that could be making it worse? sorry for the long post but please help.