I just don't know what to do.

[Stevie91]

Here's the thing; I'm 19 years old, I've been dating this girl for just over 5 months now, and I love her; But a few weeks ago, something happened that turned my life basically upside down.

Namely, I was at this party, got really drunk, and this girl was there, started talking to me. After a while, we're outside the apartment we were at. Nothing happened between us because I didn't want to cheat, but the girl just completely scanned me in under a minute, broke through all my defenses and just grasped the core of my being, if you can say that. I felt ecstatic being by her side and I can tell that I caused similar feelings inside her.

Now, my girlfriend is a wonderful person, truly, but she was never able of such a thing. Even though I love her, I never felt so...secure, so at peace, so loved, by her side. She just wasn't able to touch that core.

I've been talking to this girl ever since and we got that close again once, and I basically can't stop thinking about her.

I haven't told any of this to my girlfriend because I know it would hurt her, and I just can't do that to her. My head tells me that I should ignore everything that happened with this girl and just go on with my life, but my heart tells me that this is an opportunity I shouldn't miss; that this is the girl I've been waiting for. Through talking with her, I've realized that we agree on a lot of things, that I don't agree with, with my girlfriend. Generally, I think that this girl really understands me and could love me for everything I am.

But to be with her would mean throwing away everything I've been building for 5 months, and hurting someone I love. I just don't know what to do.

You don't have to answer, I just needed to get this down on paper(screen), it's just too chaotic in my mind.

[Cerby]

5 months is no time at all, and you're only 19.

Honestly, I say break it off and go for it with the new girl.

[steviej]

You have to think, are you just enjoying the thrill of someone new? Is it a 'the grass is greener' situation?

It's an awkward place you've found yourself in, how would you feel if the roles were reversed and it was your gf choosing between you and someone else? You wouldn't want to think that she was feeling this way about someone else, so don't take too long with your decision!

Either commit, or cut her loose.

If you can't see yourself spending the rest of your life with this girl, marriage etc then don't be with her, find someone who makes you feel like that.

[sadie_genie]

This new girl isn't that special. All she had to to was agree with everything you said and that is something anyone can do to make someone like them more. It is also what a stranger can do easily. Don't be surprised if later on, she starts disagreeing with you and having fights with you (because that is what all couples do). If you can't appreciate a stable and loving relationship with someone who is only human for disagreeing with you (because everyone is different in their own ways), then you don't deserve your girlfriend.