I'm just not that into her...

[Jayppps]

I'm in a relationship for over 5 years now. My girl is hinting and our friends and families are keep annoyingly ask too. We've been living together for about 4 years and our relationship is very good.

I do see myself married sooner or later but I can't see it being with her. I don't want to split up just because of that fact. We support each other in our comfy lives but I feel she will be worse off since she hasn't had a propper job and has been unemployed since January. I was wondering what kind of advise I can get if I wrote it on this forum because I think about it all the time and don't know what I should do.

[devonbrown]

You sound like you have settled into a comfortable situation. But if you don't see yourself married to her at some point, after 4 years of living together and 5 years together total, it is not fair to keep leading her on like that. What will eventually happen is she will get tired of waiting on you, force you to make a decision, and when you say you don't want to marry her, you will look like a jerk to her and all her friends and family.
Don't settle for easy and comfortable. Man up and let her know how you feel.

Good luck.

[98db]

I did this to a previous Ex and I had the same feelings as you. I just recently started hanging out with her again as friends and she said that I should have just ended things when I knew I didn't want to take things to the next level for her. Instead, I wasted her time and mine. I will never do that again. It's not fair to either person.

[spiritofjosh]

Honestly man I would stay were you are for now unless its unbearable. I dated my ex for almost 5 years and we broke up last august. But before that 2 years ago I broke up with her because of how you feel now. It was almost "boring" to me so I decided to be single. Then I was miserable and lost without her I felt and wanted her back but she was heartbroken and wouldn't take me back until 8 months later. You're comfortable now so I would just stick with it, it may get worse or you may change your mind about marrying her, but no matter who you're with it'll get a little stale at times eventually.

[bloodtippedrose]

I'm in a relationship for over 5 years now. My girl is hinting and our friends and families are keep annoyingly ask too. We've been living together for about 4 years and our relationship is very good.

I do see myself married sooner or later but I can't see it being with her. I don't want to split up just because of that fact. We support each other in our comfy lives but I feel she will be worse off since she hasn't had a propper job and has been unemployed since January. I was wondering what kind of advise I can get if I wrote it on this forum because I think about it all the time and don't know what I should do.

What are the reasons behind you not wanting to marry her specifically? Is she unattractive? Is the relationship in a rut? She has no work ethic? She has no goals?
Reflect on what you don't like about her or the relationship and either let her know so they can be worked on, or know for yourself so you can find someone with those attractive qualities.