Ok , need some straight forward feedback please... excuse the back story!
I have been working at the same place for 2.5 years, there is a guy i work with (Lets call him Joe) who i was interested in from the start, but i was in a serious long term relationship so it of course never went anywhere, except some day dreaming. Over time we became good friends and did a lot of flirting but it never went further.
I recently seperated from my former partner and told my work mates about 4 weeks after, 2 weeks after that Joe asked me overto his place for drinks. Although i hoped it would possibly turn into something more i really thought it was just drinks. Of course it ended up with sex and after he was saying things like, "we have had a special connection from the start", "I really think this could go somewhere", "When can we do this again" to the point of asking me to move in with him (which i of course denied politely, WAY to soon!)
I was playing it cool trying really hard not to have any expectations about it at all but saw him 2 days after at work where he was really weird and said he had "things to sort out in his life", "this really isn't a good time to be starting anything", "it's too soon after me breaking up with my ex", " it never should have happened" blah blah blah. Mostly he said he wants to take it slow, but basically that he thought it was a mistake that anything happened.
I am feeling really hurt and very used & stupid for reading into his after sex discussion, I really thought that it could be something special. So basically I'm wondering if others think that it was just him using me for sex or if you think he really does want to "just take it slow"?