How to improve yourself?

[Heartache]

When you are heartbroken, how are you going to improve yourself?

Unable to find the energy and motivation...

[Cinnabella]

Tell the story? Why did you break up?

[josh44]

Tell the story of why you broke up?

[Weirdfish-jr]

Personally I eat sweetcorn from a can, listen to heavy metal music. But one thing I think really does help is putting up signs on doors or just where ever you will definitely see them; and they say things like "You're better than you think," or "Get up and get over it," what ever works for you. Maybe writing something about you or whats happened might help us to help you.

[CynthiaC]

lose weight, dye your hair blonde, and get some new clothes

[the_robot]

lose weight, dye your hair blonde, and get some new clothes

Uhh... how is blonde better?

EDIT: And what if the OP is anorexic, would you advice him to lose weight too?

[SelflessnHumble]

Unable to find the energy and motivation...

This isn't Mother Russia, so Energy and Motivation won't find you.
2nd, you need to write down what you like to do and enumerate them. (Then DO them!)
3rd, write down what you can't do, but would like to do. -After you do this you must find out
what it will take to become proficient in the aforementioned items...Then execute the plan.

Being heartbroken is an illusion your mind creates when someone you love -loves someone else OR doesn't love you anymore.
The reality is: it's their loss! The more you prop yourself up the more THEY will see the loss and the more empowered you will feel/become.

The honest answer is: You just do not WANT to improve yourself enough by using your energy and motivation.
Ask yourself why you eat food? Or why you breathe oxygen to live? It's the same thing!

[Polmateer]

Hiya,

Ive started a journey to find my self and develop into the person i want to be, i am puting my findings onto a website called groweachtime.com there might be some useful articles on there you might find interesting. Also got a blog.

My journey started sometime ago when i broke up with someone i thought i loved...... i was heartbroken. Several months of feeling low later i went to my friends wedding and after 3 of my friends and i went on a road trip to Las Vegas. First night i was there i met a girl we got talking and even though i live in the UK and she lives in LA, we kept talking and have visited each other several times sometimes for 2 months at a time and not are getting married in November. You will find someone when you least expect it. Or in my case they will find you!

Relax and enjoy the journey!

Polmateer

[CraigT]

Focus on 'letting go' of the lost love (if there is no way back)

Energy and motivation will return. Step by step

[MrE]

Just let go, go out and have a blast. Tackle life, don't spend time sulking - that's time wasted.

[xinn1314]

well,
1. hit the gym and set a goal to achieve there, get gym buddies too ofc..
2. pick up a new sport
3. learn some martial arts
4. change a hairstyle, hair colour
5. make some emo post on facebook and get motivated by the amount of comments you receive as a sign of support from friends.
6. socialize! never stick to yourself alone
7. learn how to cook, or at least dishes that u have never tried.
8. blast off your speakers and scream and yell the lyrics~ who knows u might improve your singing too.

[rodav120]

If it's really over then you just have to let go. Tell yourself that your past love is not worth your time. That's what I do. And, get busy so that your thoughts doesn't keep on going back to your lost love. An 'idle mind is the devil's playground'. Not sure if I got that right. I agree with xinn1314, go to the gym and socialize. Avoid being alone.

[NytNrs&Mmartist]

Sparring sparring sparring...

MMA training BJJing and Kickboxing...

LET YOUR ANGER LET LOOSE ON YOUR SPARRING PARTNER. Beatem up, Submit him, Ground and pound your sparring partner.

Its good to let your anger/resentment flow out.

[NytNrs&Mmartist]

Submission is a good one.

i suck at submission offense but i got Sub Dfense. i rather do GNP LOL

[pisces25]

I turned to Buddhism.