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[Stiffler1470]

ok, im kinda new to this whole forum thing. Well here is my problem. I like this girl who i have been liking for a few weeks now. We both have a class together and we both are in orchestra and we hang out at orchestra events. On the last orchestra event, we got really close and thats when i started to like her. We both kinda flirt with each other in class. Anyway, the problem was that she liked her Ex boyfriend. I was like damn. Then, a couple of days ago, a friend told me that the girl i like doesn't like her Ex anymore. I was happy. Then, friday came and i went and asked her if she wanted to go to the movies. She said yes and i was very happ. She gave me her # and i gave her my #. Then, when i got home, she called. She said that me and her going to the movies was just us being friends. I was like ok, you have to start out somehwere. We talked a bit more, then i asked if she really DID want to go to the movies. She said no, it will ruine our friendship. I have no idea what the hell is going on. She might like her Ex again or mabye she is just afraid to even start having a ralationship. I'm kinda lost here and i dont want to do anything i will regret. Telling me that she didn't want to go was bad enough, but i really want to no what is wrong. Should i go ask her whats wrong or should i wait or what? Im lost and i reallllyy like this girl. You wont believe how much we flirt and how many people can tell i like her. What should i do?

[BlackRose]

First of all, how old are the two of you? By the looks of things, you guys are obviously young. Perhaps middle school? Anyway. I think this girl is confused and so are you. You like the girl and she isn't sure how she feels about you. She probably is still getting over her ex. How long has it been since they broke up? Give it time to die off. Maybe you misunderstood things when your friend said she didn't like her ex any more. Maybe this person was just telling you what you wanted to hear. As far as the whole movies thing is concerned, it was wrong of her to accept and then bail on you. That shows a lot of immiturity and I would avoid a girl like this. She isn't reliable and is obviously not interested. It has nothing to do with not wanting to ruin the friendship. There was no friendship to begin with. Have you ever hung out with this chick outside of school? Like just hanging out at one of your houses or at a party some where? I don't think you have considering you JUST got her number. Friends usually have each others numbers. I think you should just move on. Don't try to date this chick. If she was serious about wanting to be your friend, test it out. Ask her if she is going to the next party or school dance. If she says yes, say something like "Oh cool. So am I. Maybe we can hang out a little there." See how she reacts. Read her body language and just ignore what she is saying for that moment. Just watch her. If she seems uncomfortable with it, then you know she isn't being genuine. Another alternative would be to be blunt with her and ask her to just be honest. This way you all know where you stand. Maybe she is just trying to be nice and you are reading way too much into things. If you have any other questions, don't hesitate to post em.

[Stiffler1470]

we have hung out w/ each other out of school, not like at each other house thogh. She broke up with her ex several weeks ago. not less than a month ago. Her EX dumped her because his grades were dropping. I have no idea what she still sees in him. The girl and I do hang out. I just don't know if i should just give her some time to straight herself out or whatever. We both are going to an orchestra thing and she ASKED me repeately if i am going and SHE wants me to go. I dont no. I think im goona give her some time. O, and by the way. HIGHSCHOOL, not middle school. not that young. lol

[knightlionheart]

Well she just wants company, and the only person giving it is u!! well put yer price up man!! There r a lotta girls & guys, trying to get over their ex, and well they break other hearts in the process!! they'll keep rebounding till they run out of air!! my advice man, get a life and get another girl!! Remember keep yer pride and integrity intact!! Don't sacrifice it for someone doesn't seem 2 have any!!