Help! (Long)

[tadowdaddy]

Hi,

Well, I thought I had finally met the one. A super good girl whom I met at the airport. We started talking when standing in line and realized we were both taking the same flight. Well, as it turns out, we were both in the wrong line as well... very wierd. When we checked in, we also realized our seats were right next to each other. I ended up talking to her for about 4.5 hours that first day.

I started dating her and things were going great. Early in the relationship, I had found out that she had recently gotten out of a 4+ year relationship. I knew it would potentially cause an issue later on, but continued dating her anyway. The first month was wonderful. We spent tons of time together and would end up staying the night together frequently, without having sex.

About a month in, we ended up having sex for the first time. The next time I saw her, she freaked out, saying it happened too soon and that I should know we are just dating, that she isn't ready to commit. I was ok with that, and kept things as they were... hanging out 3-4 times a week. Well, we continued to have sex and a few weeks later, she freaked out again, saying the same thing, that we are just "dating" and she is not ready for a relationship. Once again, I told her it was ok, that I understood. Well, things continued to go well. I think I was in denial about her not wanting a relationship since we continued to spend so much time together. Finally, a couple months into this dating thing, I told her how I felt, and told her I wanted her to commit.

Well, this last Monday, after she told me she needed space to figure out if she was ready to take the next step with me. I started thinking, over analyzing things I'm sure. I called her Tuesday night and told her I wanted to talk. We did talk and I told her that if she had to think about committing to me, that I didn't think she was ready and that we should stop dating each other. It killed me to do it, but I did anyway (Having drinks that night didn't help, I think it was a bit of liquid courage...). We haven't spoken since, and I sincerely regret what I did. My question is this.. What do I do? How do I get this girl that I absolutely cherish back into my life without looking pathetic? I know that time will heal a broken heart, but I don't know how I can live with myself knowing I did one of the most stupid things I could ever do. Help. Thanks in advance.

[knightlionheart]

Man u had her in the palm of yer hands and u freakin had to go blow yer nose on her!! What the hell is wrong with u?? Obviously she had a problem with having sex with ya, but only whined bout it way later!! It happens when what u do conflicts with what u think u should do!! Maybe its because the way she was brought up!! All u had to so was not get emotional with her!! But u did and u turned into a wuss!! That kinda turned her off!! Well kiss her goodbye, coz she ain't coming back!! All u had to do was to shut the f*&k up and enjoy whatever u were getting!! But noooooo.....u had to go tell her how u felt!! Damn man, u just learnt a valuable lesson...i hope!! well all the best man......and move on!!

[tadowdaddy]

Man u had her in the palm of yer hands and u freakin had to go blow yer nose on her!! What the hell is wrong with u?? Obviously she had a problem with having sex with ya, but only whined bout it way later!! It happens when what u do conflicts with what u think u should do!! Maybe its because the way she was brought up!! All u had to so was not get emotional with her!! But u did and u turned into a wuss!! That kinda turned her off!! Well kiss her goodbye, coz she ain't coming back!! All u had to do was to shut the f*&k up and enjoy whatever u were getting!! But noooooo.....u had to go tell her how u felt!! Damn man, u just learnt a valuable lesson...i hope!! well all the best man......and move on!!

You are nuts... How do you expect a relationship to move forward if you don't tell the other person your feelings?

[knightlionheart]

u turned mushy!! i think i made my point!!! i guess its upto u!!