Same sex attraction ...pls i need everyones advice !

[abbey10]

Hi people .. recently i have been like liking my best girl friend...first of all im an 18 yr old girl and i have been friends with this girl for about 3 or 4yrs now ... i dont know yet what is my sexual orientation but i am having these emoticons and stuff and right now i am dating a guy too ..so i know ur thinking bisexual but i havent had a lesbian experience so i cant say i think ... but i sometimes fantases about her and she does not know about this .. i never told her anything. I really would like to tell her in a way but I am really afraid that we wont stay this close and would be awkward if she does not feel the same way which 85% is so ...and ur thinking why is the 15 % positive? because sometimes when she is drunk she made out with 2 girlfriends .. (each on separate occasions) ...and when she sees a really gorgeous girl or actress she tells me i would make out or make love to her but in sort of a joke if you know what i mean.. i dont know what this means if she likes women too or just drunk moments or something ..please help me i would really appreciate if you tell what would you do in my position and hers well ..thats why i asked in the female forum to imagine if someone did this to you ...

Thanks

[Klim]

I'm not sure how much I understood this, but here goes:

You seem to think same-sex attraction is a bad thing. I'm a 19-year old girl, and I noticed I was attracted to my own gender when I was around 12 years old. I've never really been attracted to men, but I don't particularly care.

Also, you don't need to have a "lesbian experience" to be bisexual, and you can be attracted to both sexes. That's fine.

However, telling your close friend how you feel is kind of a risk to your connection with each other, but you should give it a shot if you really have strong feelings about her if you're not in a relationship. Since you are currently in a relationship, telling your friend about you feelings for her could risk both that friendship and this relationship with your boyfriend. I'd wait a little before talking about it.

One last thing: sexual orientation isn't a choice, as far as I know, so don't be unhappy because of your interests. That's just you. So, if you're thinking "But I don't want to be bisexual", then, to put it simply, you'll have to get used to it.

[jb1111983]

85+15=100
just saying
but your advice is good.

[Klim]

85+15=100
just saying
but your advice is good.

Oh. I was thinking 85 and 25.

In my defense, I got 3 hours of sleep last night.

[abbey10]

thanks for ur advice .. by the way the whole 85 % and 15 % is too add up the normal saying 100% to discuss possibility if u know what i mean

[abbey10]

15% is to* add up .. sry mistake lool