Hi everyone.
Sooo, 4 years ago I started dating this guy, we dated for three years, and we were still in high school then. So of course, high school rumors fly around and eventually a rumor that "Hey your boyfriend made out with this girl." came up. This created, as you can imagine, some trust issues. I have serious trust issues myself, so it took me a very long time to get over it. So long, in fact, that I didn't until right before we broke up, three years later.
Now, a year later, we've started up again. Things are great. Though, I was having a Facebook conversation last night with a friend of mine who also happens to be longtime friends with said other girl (The other girl's name is London, by the way). When I told her that he and I had started up again, she said "Oh, I thought he and London were dating."
I have absolute confidence that he isn't cheating on me NOW. I just don't feel that he would. However, looking back at his profile (And this was by ACCIDENT, I was looking for a post I had given him and shot too far back), I found this:
London
ummm so times in the rain..good times hope you think of those pimpin' times today and they make it a great day. Have a good day....btw HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!!
August 25, 2010 at 12:49am
T.j. Ha, wow, thanks London, good times indeed. And thanks for the reminder of course.
August 25, 2010 at 1:06am
London no prob...our little secert
August 25, 2010 at 1:07am
So, since I didn't want to play the assumption game I brought it up with him, and he told me he'd walked her home since she was drunk that night, she tried to kiss him and he shoved her away. She "to this day, still thinks I (He) touched her chest".
Thing is, I don't believe a word.
I know that he loves me. But I also know that people will sometimes "tell-a-lie-to-protect-you", and I think this is one of those if anything else. It was four in the morning when we talked last, so we didn't get too into the subject.
My problem is, this happened once and it destroyed my trust in him. I don't want that to happen again. After all, this happened a long time ago. But I hated the feeling of looking over my shoulder for her ALL THE TIME... And this time (As with the other time, 4 years ago), it feels like he's lying to me. What am I supposed to do?