Originally Posted by
listen not hear
You can go to the club especially in Vegas, everyone goes there to experiment. Or you can go to AFF (adult friend finder) and make a profile explaining your situation. It's not necessarily morally wrong in my book as long as the girl knows your intentions. Don't pretend you like her for her in other words, which I'm sure that's not what you're paling on doing. Just saying, make sure she knows...preferably with someone far away who you wont bump into coincidentally in case things end badly. Believe me, when it comes to sex so many things can end badly filled with drama I don't have time to go into a deep explanation. Keep in mind...there is no such things as casual sex--I'll explain scientifically later.
So if this is what you want those are the places you can go and that's the advise I suggest keeping in mind in you search. But I'm a mother to a son and I have to give you the same advise as I would be giving him when he hits that age otherwise I wouldn't exactly be a good mother...there are dangers into losing your virginity. NO, I don't mean God will smite thee! I'm just saying, I don't care what you say it will most likely lead you to problems. If you pick an "experience" girl there are issues with STD's. If you pick a virgin there is a possibility of over attachment...on both ends, especially her end. Also if she's a stranger, which not only means you can never really know if she's experience or a virgin, it also means your first time probably wont be very great and ruin the intensity of the first time with a woman you actually like. Or lets say the woman you do end up falling for is a virgin herself...how would she feel about you not being one like her? She may not make a big deal out of it but it would most likely hurt her at least a bit. She may be one of those women who keep thinking..."Am I better?" Also by having "casual sex" with someone to loss your virginity just sounds irresponsible and compulsive. Makes you seem like sex is really nothing to you but sex. For a woman this will be a turn off! Especially since we like to think of sex as an extension of how we feel. We are communicators remember? Everything we do is through communication. Scientifically that's what we are good at, that's what our brains are wired to do from birth. So if your future partner is very friendly and an open communicator she most likely sees sex as an extension of her feelings of love. Telling her your first time (which will come up eventually by the way) would be sending her red flags that just aren't there.
Now, I mention before there is no such thing as casual sex...I'll tell you why. All love is is the endorphins in the brain sending signals of endearment whenever your with a special someone. When men have sex they produce a lot of adrenalin and the brain releases a lot of testosterone and...try to guess...yeah, endorphins. And like shock therapy doing it so many times will give you the appearance of being in love with someone you don't even like. Thus why so many people end up in obviously bad relationships they swear up and down they love them when there simply isn't a reason to love that person. Sex is addictive, just like gambling, shopping, adrenaline junkies and so on...you need to be careful, especially as a virgin, who you pick to do this with and how many times you do.
Now if you know all the risks and consequences to losing your virginity and still want to do it, go for it...just pick a girl that's on birth control because the last thing you need is to feel trapped by her with a child she claims is yours. And use a condom regardless of the pill or not...even if she's been recently tested or claims to be a virgin. A lot of STD's are not traceable till years later and some are simply invisible. Also, virgins still can have herpes. I knew a little girl who had it because her mother had an outbreak during birth to her. Anyway, have fun! Good luck!