Well there's my problem for the moment summed up. My fiance and I are planning our wedding, strike that, I'm planning a wedding, he just wants to be told what to wear, where to be and what time to be there (he's such a romantic *rolls eyes*). I will admit his lack of planning involvement is making the whole thing very easy, but when I told him recently he needs to accompany me to a jewelers so we can find out his ring size and get an idea of how much it will cost us, he seemed genuinely surprised. He told me his dad never wore a wedding ring and he doesn't want to either. When I asked him why he told me that he hates jewellery (which is true. He doesn't wear anything but a watch and has never bought me jewellery - my engagement ring was a family heirloom) and he considers a work hazard, describing a situation at his day job where a co-worker nearly lost his finger getting his ring caught on something. He also claims it is an issue for his night job (he is a waiter at night, public servant -services during the day). The only issue I can see at night is he might not get as many tips from single women. I too wait tables and my engagement ring has never caused a problem
Now I want him to wear a ring simply so other women know he is off the market. I don't think I am at risk of being cheated on but he is a natural flirt and he doesn't know it. He can't tell when he is being flirted with either.
The ring issue is causing a bit of tension at the moment because neither of us are being completely accepting of the others position. While he tells me he doesn't want a ring because of work and hating jewellery I can't help but wonder if he doesn't want to have an obvious sign he's off the market.
So, am I driving myself crazy for nothing? Is him not wanting a ring reasonable? Or should I tell him to suck it up and get used to it?