Need some female advice on the beginning stages of a relationship

[kabobra]

So I have tried to pursue this girl for a while now and I don't think there is going to be anything more then friendship at best.
I honestly have tried to start a relationship with so many women and I am not sure what I am doing but I always either end up
as a friend or for the most part just an aquaintance. Every time this happens it takes me down a notch and I start to wonder when I will meet a girl for me. I have no problem meeting women and I am a friendly guy. All my friends and some of their girlfriends or wives tell me that I need a good girl, but I am not sure what I seem to be doing wrong before I can even enter a relationship. I am not getting any younger and it gets tougher to meet quality women. With this most recent girl I felt that I was to something good until I didn't receive a msg back when I asked her if she wanted to meet up on the weekend. The whole fear of rejection thing I have been able to overcome but each time it fails to conform into anything I become very confused...it's strange because I am a very happy guy who gets told that I am easy to approach and to talk to. I am a decent looking man and I take good care of myself. Honestly, what are some things that I can work on or do differently to help this situation so I can finally start the missing stage in my life? I would really appreciate some advice on how to handle the beginning part of a potential relationship so I can actually have a loving relationship. Thanks.

[MaidenMinx]

Maybe you just have to work on the friendship stage for longer. My man and I were friends for 8 months before we got together. Things take time. Maybe you are asking for a date to soon after meeting?

[MiWatt]

You sound like a nice guy.

THAT'S THE PROBLEM!

I'm only basing this on my experience, and I might be completely wrong (feel free to correct me girls), but whilst girls do like nice guys, they don't like all the stuff that typically go with nice guys, such as being a push over, not being able to stand up for yourself, not having your own opinions, not expressing directly what you want, not being decisive, not taking a leading role in relationships, etc.

It's a myth that girls like jerks - they don't. But they do value certain qualities ABOVE just being a nice guy. And those qualities (which ultimately boil down to CONFIDENCE) are typically associated more with jerks than with nice guys.

However, if you develop your confidence, assert yourself, AND remain a nice guy, you'll be irresistible to the ladies.

[saraho]

Dont be that available, girl's also enjoy hunting.. Be nice and cute, give her compliments - but remember less is more. Be a man, dont be afraid to be rejected - thats what u boys do.. If shes not into u, well.. Her loss, nobody in this whole damn world is better than u, keep that in mind So basically, dont give her to much of ur time - give her compliments but not to many. If u let us we girls become some manipulative players. We are all bitches

[kabobra]

Ok, but if I am friends with them for too long then I would be put into the "just a friend" category. I understand things take time and I think that I get worried that if I don't act fast enough then maybe they will meet someone else, you know?

[saraho]

I feel u. dont be just friends, but dont give her too much of ur time, let her work a little to. Let her know u want it, but that u dont want it thaaaat bad. To be friends first work best if you've known eachother for a while, if u meet a new girl dont try to just be a friend, start flearting right away, or the feelings might slip away. You just gotta practise to find the balance u know? Be like.. If u wannna invite her home be more like; " hey sexy, wanna keep me company tonight?" instead of;" hi i was wondering if u possibly would hang out with me this weekend.. if u wanna " or something haha.. U gotta be more uhm.. brutale? if u know what im sayin

[MiWatt]

Unlike the majority of girls ("I like nice guys who respect me lol") Saraho speaks the truth. Listen to her.

[Virag]

My ex was bombing me with messages and asked me out for breakfast,to walk the dogs and all sort of fun stuff for one and a half month before we even kissed.I honestly didn't want to give him the chance but he didn't give it up.He wasn't pushy,but he approached me always in a nice way and sent me lot of messages every day...I totally fell in love wtih him....If you really like someone....don't give up..unless she rejects your suggestions all the time.If she is willing to hang out with you as a friend at the beginning means you are building a foundation.