At the end of my relationship. Long, but would appreciate help!

[VincenzoG91]

"Little darling, it's been a long cold lonely winter
Little darling, it feels like years since it's been here
Here comes the sun, here comes the sun
and I say it's all right"

Forget about that guy. He's a jerk and now you know. It's okay to feel sad right now, but don't bother missing him. You deserve better than that.

[HereComesTheSun]

"Little darling, it's been a long cold lonely winter
Little darling, it feels like years since it's been here
Here comes the sun, here comes the sun
and I say it's all right"

Forget about that guy. He's a jerk and now you know. It's okay to feel sad right now, but don't bother missing him. You deserve better than that.

Wow.. Thats one of my favourite songs. lol But thankyou, everything i ever thought about him as all been trashed. After everything he ever accused me of..and he goes and does it himself. Ugh im lost for words.. Just tears come and its frustrating. I cant get them out of my head and its driving me insane. I hope to god i feel abit better in the morning. But i do now see he is not a one in a million..Just another stupid f*cking low life.
Thankyou.

[VincenzoG91]

Sometimes a guy makes a certain allegation because it's something he would do, or at least thinks about doing. For example, if this guy was a thief, he would be more likely to accuse other people of stealing from him. He kept accusing you of cheating not because there was any reason to think it, but because he is a cheater.

[HereComesTheSun]

Well, i dont know what to say.. I dont feel better this morning.. I feel worse than i did. I cant stop crying.. i cant do anything.
I am thinking of taking my life .. My whole life just doesnt feel worth living anymore. He hasnt tried to get a hold of me and its killing me. he text me this morning saying he is so happy he doesnt know why he didnt do this a long time ago and hes found someone as crazy as he is so he hopes i find someone too. I dont know what to do or think.. I just dont want to be here anymore..

[VincenzoG91]

He treated you badly, and I suspect that he is lying to you today about his happiness. Forget about him. I realize that's easy to say, so I'm going to give you some very practical suggestions on how to forget him.

1. Get some exercise. If you already exercise, now is the time to take it up a level. Besides the physical benefits, you will be too tired to feel sorry for yourself and you will sleep well tonight. Over the course of the coming days, the additional exercise will also stabilize your emotions.

2. Reach out to friends and family. Remember them? Talk to them about this situation until they are bored and soon you will be bored with the sheer repetition of it all.

3. Do some volunteer work. You will meet new people, stay busy, and feel great about yourself.

4. Get a pet. It's a daily source of unconditional love. Walking a dog will help you with the exercise part, but a cat is easier in many ways.

5. Start a new hobby, or get back into one that you have neglected.

6. Watch a bunch of comedies. Go to the video story and rent a stack, or set up a bunch in your Netflix queue (or whatever you have).

7. Take a self-defense class. Channel your current frustration and unhappiness into punches and kicks at class.

8. Do some spring-cleaning. Specifically throw away everything that this guy ever gave you. Or give it away to charity. Or sell it on e-Bay.

9. Learn another language. That will keep your thoughts busy.

10. Confront an old fear. Afraid of heights? Climb a tree. Afraid of spiders? Take off your shoe and squash that spider. Whatever your fear is, face it and conquer it, and you will feel stronger and better afterwards.

[HereComesTheSun]

Oh thankyou so much for taking the time to read and reply. I am going to try my damn hardest not to let this guy get the better of me.. I cant believe i am letting him get to me like this, i am so much better than him.. I am definitely going to get on doing some these things they are SUCH good recomendations. Just reading them, thinking about them and planning them into my schedule is making me feel better. lol
I cant wait to actually do something with myself instead of wasting all my energy on him. This is going to be a long lonely road from here on out i think, but hopefully i can get out of this and i just get over him. I feel incredibly sick just thinking about it but thankyou so much.
I just realised how little he actually cares.. He really doesnt.. And i just realised who the people are i should be putting my energy into, who i should be making more effort for. My dad just bought me mothers day gifts, it made me cry. lol My friend who called me this morning and actually made me smile and my daughter. She hugged me and told me she loved me when i cried making breakfast this morning. It made me cry harder but i just feel relieved. I thought i was alone but i really am not at all..Thankyou.

[novocane]

I just read this whole thread, and my advice would be to stop thinking about him, stop talking about him, forget about him. Don't complain about it to anyone, don't try to rationalize it, and most of all DON'T BLAME YOURSELF!! He obviously is unstable, overly jealous and from the sounds of it, dangerous. This easily could have escalated into you getting hurt physically.. Move on from here and in the future have the willpower to stand up for yourself and get out before you can be hurt.

You had so many chances to leave him, yet you waited and waited until finally he got the best of you, and left you in the dirt. Don't make these mistakes again!