so if mommas happy everyone is happy. I think thats bs. Ultimatums regardless of age are bs as well. I wouldn't put up with that for a second. Are you looking for peace or a relationship? A good relationship should be relatively peacefull and respectfull. You definitely want to take care of your mate and her you, but having a deadline or all bets are off? Trust me that won't be the last time. Buy me a new car or I will be outta here. I can here it now. Run fast the other way.