Hi all,
Sorry if my spelling is off at all in this post I'm pretty stressed out.
So my gf and I have had a rough patch coz we've not been able to meet up alot. I thought we sorted stuff out but today things kicked off again.
I was getting picked up in 15mins and could sense something was up so I asked, and eventually got the stuff out of her about her being upset because she feels like I dont want to see her (even after I've put in alot of effort over the past few months to see her more). She was also stressed out about other things like exams and stuff and the fact that we havnt been able to book a holiday coz my folks dont like the idea (were both 18).
I tried to calm her down but I had to go, I stayed for a further 40mins to try and calm her down (while my mum waited outside to pick me up). I subsiquently got stressed out as part of our problem is that I have had a conflict between how much she wants to see me, and how much work I have to do, and how much work my parents want me to do and this was another conflict in which I turn out as the bad guy. I didnt want to abandon her, but equally I had to go because it had been 40mins of waiting for my mum. She eventually saw how stressed I got and told me to go saying that she would be ok, so I said I wasnt putting my work first (A levels) I just had to go coz my mum had been waiting for nearly 45mins.
And now I'm pretty sure she's pissed off at me, despite the fact that I tried to text my mum to say that I would be a bit longer coz I wanted to make sure she was ok, but she stopped me and told me not too.
I told her I didnt want to go, and that it wasnt because I didnt want to sort stuff out, its just that I had to go.
But now I feel like s**t and I dont know what to do. I tried really hard to calm her down and cheer her up.
So if anyone could give me advice on how to handle this situation, I'd be really greatfull, thanks. sorry about the rant.