confused or not ready to commit?

[wondering80]

My boyfriend of a little over two years and I moved in together in December 2010. Our relationship is great. Perfect by no means, we have small disagreements, but still great. We are both very much in love. Jan of this year he said he wanted to get married. It wasn't a proposal, just a statement. March a close couple friend of ours asked when we were getting married. He responded by saying "whenever she will let me, but she hasn't let me yet" Then he laughed.
On our way home that day, I asked him when he wanted to get married. He got a little aggitated said he just wanted it to be special for him because he has never been married before. (I have been). He, also, asked me not to mention it again because he felt as if I was pushing him. I have only mentioned it when he has. Well this is May and he briefly mentioned it again last week. I told him "all you have to do is ask" and left it at that.

Today he says we should sell my house and buy a home together. I told him we would talk about it when he got home (the convo was brief because he was at work) My first thoughts on the house thing is that is a big step to take without being married first. I currently own my home, but can understand him wanting a place that is "ours"
My questions are:
1. Am I wrong to think purchasing a home together is a poor idea if we aren't married?
2. I'm in no rush to tie the knot, but why is he wanting it one minute, but wanting to wait the next?
3. Why is it when people ask when we are getting married, he responds in a way that sounds like I'm making him wait?
Any advice would be great guys!....and ladies too! Sorry for the length and Thank you in advance!

[Dune]

1. It IS a poor idea to purchase a home together if you're not married. Risky.
2. No idea.. Cold feet? Fickle? Undecided? Afraid?
3. Ego? Making you sound like you're the one waiting for his answer makes him look like he calls the shots.

Purely my opinion.

[smackie9]

Sell the house and rent for now and buy a house together after you are married. Get a prenuptial agreement to protect your assets....seriously. At least to cover the profit you have made off the sale of your house if he can't match it.