hi everyone im new to this site so please be patient.
Ok here goes....could be a long one lol
i have recently split with my husband (beginnng of april 2011) , we were together for 12 yrs and have 2 young children and things just got borring and we fell out of love with each other. Were still on talking terms and hes still helping me out with things with money etc till i get myself sorted, iv lost a very good man but unfortunately these things happen. Anyway in the mean time one of our male friends (was my husbands mate to begin with but over the years was more my mate) has taken a shine to me or atleast i think he has. You see this is where it gets confussing!! When this male friend went through his divorce a few yrs ago i was there for him with advice about his ex and advice about seeing his child etc... and now it seems hes repaying it by helping me out etc... anyway last week he text me and asked if i fancy going for a walk with him and if i fancied going to the health suite at his local gym to help me relax and get out the house. I went along and spent the day with him and had lunch after which was really nice of him. He also keeps sending texts every few days saying works really slow and has some time to kill so thought he would drop me a text to see how i am. But im TOTALLY confussed does he think of me as a mate would or does he fancy me?? I picked up on some telltale signs that he fancied me....looking deep into my eyes when talking and not looking away, making me laugh, respectful of not looking at me when im in my swimming cossie (but he could of looked when i wasnt looking at him lol), asking me indepth questions. Thing is i do really like this guy and have secretly done for a few yrs and was rather chuffed that he asked me out to cheer me up but was that all it was?? just to cheer me up?? he said we can go out for a walk again once weather is better or maybe for a few drinks. Im also wary that this guy was my husbands mate although he was more of a mate through a mate and him and my ex husband didnt really get on that much....what do you guys think??? PLEASE HELP! thank you