bringing up relationship w/o scaring him off!

[lost_heart]

I've been dating this guy for a little over 5 months, how do i bring up being in a relationship without scaring him?

[JadenMia]

So you are not dating, you are just seeing/sleeping with each other?

To me, dating is a relationship.. So there is no commitment between the two of you? Does he see/sleep with other girls?

Just ask him! Who cares if he gets scared, if he gets scared then he's the wrong guy. If it was a few weeks id understand what you mean, but not 5 months.

[lost_heart]

There is no commitment between us. Idk if he's seeing anyone else bcuz i feel like its not my place to ask. I have other guys i talk to but im not physical with anyone else. In the beginning we both said we wouldnt force a relationship but im starting to think we're just going to be stuck in the same place until i say something.

[Red Apollo]

Say something to him about it in passing. But don't try to corner him. Just kinda test the waters to see how he feels about it. If he seems put off, just move the conversation to something else. It'll give you a general idea of where he stands, and you'll know where to go from there.

[JadenMia]

You are going to be stuck like that until you say something. If its been 5 months and he hasnt mentioned anything about a relationship, then its time to ask.

Do you want to be in a relationship? If so, ask him. Tell him what you want and only settle for anything he offers if its what you want too.

[lost_heart]

At this point i feel like its time for us to either give this a try or move on. I DONT WANT TO WASTE MY TIME. I think 5 months is enough time to decide if u want to be in a relationship with someone or not.

[JadenMia]

At this point i feel like its time for us to either give this a try or move on. I DONT WANT TO WASTE MY TIME. I think 5 months is enough time to decide if u want to be in a relationship with someone or not.

Yep, it definitely is long enough!
I agree with ^^^ too. To start off with, dont corner him or attack him with it. Just bring it up. Ask him where you stand with him? If you are officially dating? Or just FWB. If he starts freaking out, then i would give thge ultimatum 'Well im looking for more than that, if you dont want to give me that, then im leaving. Not in spite but to get what i want out of life'
See what he says, if he lets you go, go and dont look back.