I was trying not to bore everyone with the nitty gritty details
everything he does annoys me as bad as it sounds. The way he will do something 'half as*ed' example- he will wash up and leave the pots and pans, will water the gardens and leave the hose sprawled over the lawn (which my dog loves to chew). I thought at first he would eventually finish the job..I was wrong. The lack of communication makes me want to scream! I am a very open person, will speak what is on my mind, let him know what I'm doing or thinking and he is complete opposite. I have to drag all and any information out of him. He will not tell me important things like he 'lost his job!' because he thought it would just worry me, which I can see his point but in a relationship, there should be communication from both sides yeah? I am a very open minded person and like to try and see things from everybodys perspective but he is very set in the way he see's things and refuses to pit himself in anothers shoes which I find REALLY frustrating. He makes excuses instead of just being truthful example- he say's he has been looking for work but has not sent his resume out, he has not been searching the jobs in the paper nor on the net, why not just be truthful and tell me he is happy to stay unemployed for awhile? Another thing that really gets on my nerves is his son, well how he deals with the situation. For 10years he And his teenage son had been living with his elderly parents, relying totally on them to raise his boy while he was out doing everything he shouldn't be. When I found this house I made sure it had a room for his boy (who I get along with quite well), when he lost his job he sent his son to live with his parents again cause he couldn't afford to run him to school everyday (we live a hr away) which I understand but if he really wanted him to stay with us, get a job! He is a aircon mech and rekons there is no jobs for him, if he was serious about getting a job, change professions for awhile (no one is to good to wash dishes!) his excuses SH*T me. I know they sound like trivial problems but they are really big issues in our life and he refuses to talk about them. He just waits for everyone to do things for him.....mummies boy wraps it up. I know I must focus on my baby and what makes me happy that is why I have asked for a bit of a break in our relationship until baby is born and I know what I'm doing and what is best for us (baby and me) but the more time I spend away from him the more our problems seem unsolvable. He is a good person, he would never hurt anyone on purpose, physically or emotionally. I don't think he would ever cheat. But does this make up for the fact that there seems to be no chemistry anymore? I shouldn't feel like I have to 'put up' with him all the time if we were right together yeah? He doesn't hit me, he doesn't belittle me, he doesn't cheat (that I know of), he doesn't spend all his time at the pub, he quite his habits to stay with me and the baby, am I being picky, should I just pick up after him and 'mommy' him for the sake of a 'happy family?'