Hi,
I'm a 28 years old man living in Sweden. I'm in a very confusing situation, and I need your help.
I started a relationship 2 years ago. In the first couple of months we were more sex partners and it was what I wanted initially. Eventually it got more serious and everyone knew her as my girl friend. We had a very beautiful relationship, for 1 year and half. Spending all of our free time together, having fun, going out, etc. During that period, I have been reminding her that this relation even-though very healthy, but it's not gonna stand forever. In fact, I did not want her to love me because I didn't have the feeling to stand with her forever.
5 months ago we had our first fight. The real problem was that she wanted to know what's gonna happen in future and if I want to marry her or not. I managed to convince her that our relation is only a friendship. But I started to think about marrying her. During this time I tested her in different ways to realize if she is the person I want to live with the rest of my life or not. But she failed in some of my tests (she did not know I'm testing her!).
2 months ago, we had a fight and I told her that I have been thinking about marriage and decided not to marry her and we broke up. She seems to be very surprises that I was thinking about marriage!
After break up, I went on a long vacation until last week. Tonight, I met her for dinner. She started to cry saying how much she loves me and misses me. she said that she has done everything on purpose to make me break up because she was tired of not knowing what's gonna happen in future. She insisted that it was her fault, and she wants me back.
I really like her, but I'm not sure if I love her. I can not understand if I miss her is because of my loneliness, or because of I love her. I saw someone with similar situation asking the same question in a forum. Some others have responded that since he wonders he does not love the girl, if he had loved her wouldn't have asked in the forum!!
I'm very confused now. I do not know if I should continue this relation, or looking for new relations.
Any advice is very much appreciated.