Hello all,
I'm here in hopes of finding a little help in getting rid of pet peeves I have with girls. A little about me, my name is Rob, I'm 16, Junior in HS, ranked 2nd in my class in GPA, very mature for my age.
I guess I've developed some pet peeves in a previous relationship that are affecting my current one. Now I trust this girl because I know her well (have for a long while) and know she doesn't do anything disrespectful to me or our relationship.
I really don't know how to put it, but I just get so ticked off at the smallest things. For instance, I get annoyed when someone (not necessarily her) doesn't respond to a text because they are doing something. Now it could be simply 20 minutes or 3 hours. An example is when my girlfriend was driving out to her sister's college which is about a 3 hour trip and I was wondering why she wasn't responding, I had no clue she was driving out there.
Another small example is today, where she didn't want to hang out because she was going shopping (which is another whole peeve in itself, but thats for another time). Now she just tells me that we can't hang out today. Alright whatever, I think to myself...not a problem. An hour or 2 goes by and she has been replying slowly (10-15 mins per reply, usually its 1-2 mins ) so I ask her if she is busy. She says she is at Kohls. This is kind of like a double slap in the face to me. She goes shopping instead, and then just says "i'll talk to you later". Now honestly I don't care but I wish she would have told me beforehand. She is always the one saying we need to hangout and how much she misses me.
Now I just feel kind of down and don't even feel like talking anymore. There is something wrong as something this small shouldn't affect me this much. However, in my previous relationship it got to the point where I had to tell the girl everything. Like be right back, I'm going to get a glass of water (which takes a whole 30 seconds) and it's rubbed off on me, and it SUCKS.
I probably seem very controlling when I explain it but I try not to be, I try to be laid back and let her do whatever she wants. I know it's my problem and I need to take care of it, because it doesn't affect her...she shouldn't have to change what she does if it's my peeve. I guess I'm just looking for advice on how to get rid of it, or maybe I'm the only one with this stupid pet peeve.
Thanks in advance!
Rob