Hi guys,
You all helped me before and made a big difference in my relationship. Thanks a lot for it. But currently, I am going through another problem and this has basically taken away my sleep. 3years ago, I dated a guy just for 2 months. We weren’t boyfriend and girlfriend because he wanted us to be “friends” first. Yet we were quite intimate with each other. But soon he left me for another woman. I was heartbroken, but was determined to move on. After some months I ended up meeting my boyfriend and we are very happy with each other now. But this ex guy kept giving me private calls here and there. He would listen to my voice and then just cut the line off. Last January, he started doing it all the more which made me feel suffocated. I found my phone vibrating violently, but never answered.
At one point, I ended up writing a mean email to him where I told him to not annoy me because I no more had any feelings for him. He replied saying that he never called me, but would love to stay as my friend. He made his email sound sad by mentioning that he was struggling financially and that he was not in CA (where I live and met him), but in NY living with his girlfriend. I felt embarrassed and so wrote an apology email to him. On seeing this, he asked me a few questions about the economic crisis of California. I for a second thought he was just being neutral and so I replied to him with a criticism about California's politics. In his next email, he asked me about my relationship with my new guy and I replied that I was extremely happy with him.
But then his next email turned out to be a bit too intimate for which I frowned and blocked him. Yet another of his email reached my inbox, but from a different email address. He asked me in it why I did not send him a reply. I blocked this one also. 3 weeks it was all quiet. But then suddenly I got another one from another different address. I just gave up and chose to still stay quiet. I thought my silence would drive him away. However, I was wrong. I again started getting private calls. And two days ago, I received a text message from him which went something like “hey hunny how are you?” Within two min another came where he regarded me as a babe. I was furious at him, yet kept quiet. I was scared that if I reacted he would get a chance to get bolder. Even my boyfriend thought so. But yesterday, I got another text msg from my own area code and it was written in a way so I reacted and sent a reply. It went something like ‘wat yaw doin?? Dis is Kay”. I feel extremely drained by all this. I hate to be chased.
This ex knows very well that I will never break up with my boyfriend. But as you can see, he doesn’t take it seriously. Two years ago, I did tell him upfront not to annoy me. It never worked. What can I do to get rid of him? My boyfriend told me to change my number, but I am subscribed to T-Mobile which is already bought by AT&T. So in a few months, I am dropping it anyways. But I just don't think he will stop harassing me through emails. He has 3 of my email addresses.