I need some advice

[Annex]

Hello ladies and gentlemen, I'm in need of some advice in the situation i am currently in, but alas how can you give advice if there is no information so here is my story.

I met my girlfriend on World of Warcraft, well in fact i met her at a get together of all our guildies and she was in fact the sister of one of my friends i play with. At first we were just 2 people having fun at a party but when it came time to hit the sack my girlfriend, her sister and I all bunked in the same bed. We both couldnt sleep so we just stayed awake talking and thats where we hit it off. It turned out that we had literally everything in common even our childhood stories shared some similarities. Later that morning we headed off home together (my car was at her house since i arrived at her place and she took me to her sisters place) and started to have another good chat, this time about games and all the nerdy stuff we liked. From there on we exchanged realID and started to talk alot in game.

The next week i headed to New Zealand with some friends for 3 weeks, by this stage i had a suspicion she was into me but didnt read too much into it. While i was in NZ each night we would talk i would be staying up till 3am just to talk to her untill she went to bed (Timezone differences). Long story short i ended up making the first move and asking her out on a date when i came back from NZ.

I ended up coming back home early from NZ and she offered to pick me up from the airport and dive me home (I lived 2 hours away from the airport) That day she picked me up at 8am and she didnt leave my house until 9pm, we just sat in my room talking alot of it was her asking questions and asking some sexual questions aswell.

The saturday after was the day i planned for our date, but she said to come up on friday and so i drove to her house and ended up spending the weekend there. The first night we made out and the second night we went all the way.
By that stage it was official we were boyfriend and girlfriend. For the following month i would have dates planned for us to do things together on the weekends and even on Wednesdays i would just drive up there and spend the night with her.

We were having a great time together, she was happy that she met a man that made decisions and had things planned and of course i was happy she was happy. All this dating happened around Late november/early december. Then one night she said to me that she wanted to move out of her parents house and have some more privacy. she was planning to rent her sisters house and live in it whilst helping pay her sisters mortgage on the house. the only problem was that she was a little concerend that money would be tight and she wouldnt have much left over to herself. At this stage i didnt have a job and the town i was looking for work in was dry, that said i always did have to plans to move to the bigger city but i never had the opportunity, i had plans for my career and i thought this was the best time to fulfill them. So i mentioned to her how about i move in with you. I knew it was a bad idea at the time but i was selfish to a degree and wanted to be with her even though we have only been dating for 1 month. At first she was skeptical at the idea but then she mentioned to me that i could stay with her untill i find a job in the city and then get my own place. so I agreed

During the christmas break we spent the whole week together, she said this was a test to a degree to see if i would get sick of living with her. Of course i wasnt, i even asked her the same question and she said she wasnt sick of me yet either. after chirstmas we moved in together. The first month was a tad rocky due to the Floods that were wreaking havoc and due to the fact we had no internet and we both were going a bit nuts (her more so than me) We also couldnt have sex at that stage becasue she was going through her girlys.

After that all the commotion died down and we had settled in. we started buying furniture for the house, tv, shelves ect the works. we were happy. I would be cooking, washing, cleaning the house while she worked and i was looking for a job so when she got home she could just jump on the computer and play some video games. even while she was playing i would give her a shoulder massage every once in awhile. i basically treated her like a princess.

In february she went to america for 4 weeks with her parents. on the night prior to that i made a subtle hint that we should have sex before she went away, but she didnt feel like it so i just let it be and gave her a kiss goodbye and she headed off to her parents house for the night to prepare for the flight in the morning. Later that night i got a call from her saying that we should of had sex, i lold.

While she was in america, every chance we got we talked, she would talk about what she did that day, where she was going to the next day, she also told me several occasions that she was regretting not having sex that night she left as she missed me so much and was horny the entire time she was over there. When it came to valentines day i organised a surprise for her. i managed to get a florist over in the states to send flowers to her hotel and ravish it with roses and petals so when she got home it would be beautiful. everything went according to plan and she was lovestruck when she saw the display, and i quote her on this "I just wanted to dry hump you through the phone". From there on every conversation ended with I love you and i miss you heaps.

On the date she got back i found a job and had to work the day she came home. when i came home she was asleep, she was tired from the plane trip, though she did wake up and she gave me all the gifts she bought me while she was over there (i should mention the night before she came home i set up a scavenger hunt for her so when she got home she would be searching for her presents, it was a rose some chocolates and a necklace for the grand finale.) from there on we had make up sex and thing were back to normal.

This is where things started to decline. we had out first argument about 3 weeks after she got back. becuase i was working 9-6pm and when i got home we would have to raid (its a game thing) sometime i couldnt cook dinner for her and or clean up. it was only on the night i got home at 6pm which was on a monday and wednesday. turns out that it bothered her, and she thought i wasnt pulling my weight. there was no yelling involved in this argument and i should mention this happened at the time of her period aswell. i mentioned to her to tell me what she wants done as i have no idea what she was thinking or wanted me to do. she retaliated with the statement "i dont want to nag you and i dont want to be the one making all the decisions" and apprantly the time i was staying there and not working she mentioned that i could have done more. at that stage i told her i thought she was wrong, in a polite way and told her that i would do better. so thats what i did from then on she basically did no house work at all.

A week after that we stopped having sex. i brought up the conversation and it turns out that she jsut wasnt interested in it at that stage. i asked her questions like if she was losing attraction to me and the problems going on. (she was going through some work stress, which i understand). i said to her thats fine and left it at that. I sensed that there was somthing deeper but again i didnt want my mind to jump to conclusions so i ignored it. On the weekend i tried to initate sexual activites again by doing something romantic (i would nomrally do something romantic just for fun without the intention of getting anything in return) but to no avail. The next night i went to bed early and she didnt end up coming to bed, she was sleeping on the couch in the spare room. i was confused and didnt know what was going on. the next day i didnt bring it up and jsut acted like it was a normal day, until the afternoon i brought it up subtly. She said to me that she needed space. i agreed and said thats fine ( in my head i thought space was a day or 2 day thing tops, how wrong i was) That night i convinced her to sleep in the same bed and i started touching her to initiate some sort of arousal. she got up and told me she needed space and went off to sleep in the other room again. for a week she slept in that room and we were drifting apart and i was going mental at the idea. i would be tossing and turning in bed and pouting and i was fustrated. i never displayed this in front of her or lashed out at her, but somtimes my mutterings would be loud enough that she would storm in and yell "whats wrong" to which i replied "nothing, im just fustrated."

The following week i brought up my bed from my old house and put it in the other room and i was sleeping in it. This whole situtation went on for about a 2 months and each week i would bring up the conversation and want to talk about whats going on and i would push a little more hoping she would tell me what the problem is. The first week she said to me that she wasnt interested in sex and she didnt know if she will ever be, she also mentioned that she didnt care if i found relief with other women. to which i was disgusted at the idea. I said to her "its fine if thats what you think i will gladly give up sex to be with you if you arnt interested in it as much as i was." the second week we said that she wanted more space and didnt want to be as intimate (ie no touching backrubs kissing ect.) she said she felt that whenever i did something nice for her like a romantic dinner or offer to give her a backrub (she has alot of back pain) i was expecting something in return (sex). to which i told her that i dont have any expectations what so ever im just doing this because i care for you. The third week i asked her to talk to me and she started to mention all the little things that bugged her (everyone has them) mine were things so trivial like "driving in the overtaking lane" or "not wearing boxers, becuase she hated underwear."

Later on in april i organised a trip over the weekend for us to go on (I planned this trip before we were having the problems) this trip was to be a romantic one, hotels, an event, dinner and hopefully sex afterwards. it was supposed to be a great evening.
dont get me wrong the weekend was great, but i was getting mixed signals. she would still hold my hand when we went for a walk and she even asked me if i brought condoms, to which i replied i did becuase i planned this night with the intention of us being intimate. she laughed and smiled and hugged me. that night after the event was over she was feeling a little sick. so we got tot the hotel stayed up a bit watching tv. when she got into bed with me i initated some touching for arousal but she told me to stop. to which i started to shift around because i thought i was led on. i went to roll over and go to sleep but she urged me not to roll over and still face her while we went to sleep. I was confused. The next morning she apologies and told me that she was still feeling sick that night, which is understandable. she also said that later on that night we could sleep together. When we got home we carried on with our day and when it got to the time to go to bed i jumped in bed, but she was cranky at something i didnt know what she was cranky about because i know for a fact i didnt do anything to upset her. she jsut rolled over and went to sleep.

The next morning i brought up about what happened last night and talked to her about it. she told me that she wanted space, she still wanted to be in a relationship with me ie boyfriend and girlfriend but didnt want to be intimate.
The week later i brought it up again and thats the day she said "i think we should just be friends", "I dont have those feelings for you anymore and im not sure if i ever will again" of course that devastated me, turns out she didnt want to break up with me earlier because i didnt have any friends in town and had no support group at all. It was a relief to her to let me go because she didnt want to jsut pull me along and use me (becuae i still cooked cleaned and all the other things). she said to me that i could still love there as friends and nothing would change except for the fact we were no longer together.

Of course i tried to fight to get the relationship back but to no avail. at this stage i was at rock bottom she was handling it well but i was in the dark, i tried everything to get the relationship back i would try and compramise but she didnt want a bar of it. it got to the point where she pretty much had to yell at me "its over, I dont have those feelings for you anymore"

During this time i would still cook clean and all the things i did before, bottom line i noticed she was getting close with another person on Warcraft. they were lightly flirting and doing all the things that we used to do ingame together. at that point i had some jealousy but i never showed it. 2 weeks later she said to me "i think you should start looking for a new place to live, its too uncomfortable, i need my privacy" to which i just snapped, i went from a guy which was heartbroken but had a plan to get her back to a puddle of tears on the floor. See i was still happy that i could come home from work and just hear her voice and see her even though we wernt together, but when she did get home i noticed that she wasnt happy, coming home every day and seeing me.

the next morning i packed up my stuff and moved back home to my parents place and had to quit my job.

This is where my story ends.

[Annex]

There was alot of small things that mislead me to believe that she would come back to me like "not updating status on facebook" "the fact she didnt kick me out initially" "she didnt tell her parents until a week later and didnt tell her friends untill 2 weeks later"

After we broke up i did try to get her parents to convince her to give me a second chance as they thought we were a great match and didnt want us to break up. but that made things worse what she found out i was going behind her back. understandable. i did also buy her a massage at a fancy place to take some stress off. again a wrong move but at that stage my emotions took over my logical thinking.

Bottom line i still love her and want to be with her still, i believe she is my perfect match with all things in common.
I know the reasons why she left me NOW such as clingyness, i would always want to be with her like watching a movie ect. dont get me wrong i encouraged her to go out with her friends in that time we were together, but she didnt have many friends either, we just had each other and warcraft. i also noticed now that towards teh end of the relationship i started getting desprate an she was loosing attraction to me because i was willing to change for her and put her on a pedistool.

the move out was sudden, she didnt expect me to go so quickly. the day after she said she was a bit sad, and that ticked in my head that there is hope. but i ****ed it all up, 2 days later i called her parents and asked them if i could stay with them for a week so i could get some bond money and move out into a place of my own. the said that they had to talk to her about it first, to which i said maybe i should. they told me it was best if they did first. anyway she went hysterical at the notion and got incredibly angry at me saying that i undermined her authority. on the weekend i picked up the rest of my stuff and she was still angry. i apologised to her and told her that the breakup was teh best thing (she kept on jsut saying yep, yep not really paying any attention) and i went on my way.

its been 2 weeks since that day. which brings me to now
at the moment i'm initiating NC

The questions im asking is:
could she no longer have feelings for me
Is there a chance to get back
and any other help welcome

P.S I just found out a day ago that she deleted a 3 or so pictures of us when we went on that trip. but she left all the other pictures we were together in up. I am still head strong and havent talked to her about it and will continue to initiate NC according to a plan

[DarkHelmet82]

geez this is a lot to read.. and im at work so I cant read it all.. but sometimes people lose feelings yes.... do no contact and then reevaluate how you feel. If you feel you need answers go for it.