Too many dates at once?

[maxmax]

OK, so I took the advice, and I have been 'active' and managed to get a few dates, including some from online (a reputable site mind you). Well, the thing is I now have three dates coming up ... Sat, Sun and then Tues. Oh, and each with a different person.

The date I went on last week didn't go anywhere by the way - not really my type - but it was nice nonethless.

Now my instinct tells me this is too much, and I am thinking to myself 'what?' ... but then again, it is just drinks, and I do feel like I need to make the effort and 'date' more often.

Are so many dates in such a short space of time that bad a thing? It wasn't planned this way, but it just happened.

[oldskool83]

ive been there, you start looking at them like interviews. i dont like doing that cuz you waste pepole times id you sya like the 2nd one but end up going out with 3 and 4 and likeone of them then u juggle and i dont think thats how it works

[Riku]

You are a single adult...go out whenever and with whoever you want.

[ShellyZ]

Just don't get them mixed up when you're talking to them. "So how did your tennis match go last weekend?" Girl gives you a weird look. "Um, I don't play tennis." Pause. "Oh shit, that was Girl #2..." You end up looking like an asshole that way.

[butterfly81]

It's good to get out there but I found going a a few dates in a week pretty exhausting
Ps you free tues lol

[VincenzoG91]

I once went on a blind date where we planned to meet up inside a busy night club. She was getting so many responses to her ad that she invited four guys to meet her at the club that night!

She had each of us tell her how we were going to be dressed so she could recognize us. What we didn't know was that she was only going to approach the best-looking of us and leave the other three as stood up. I know that she did this because she picked me and told me about her clever plan. Then she walked me around the room and showed me the other guys, who were anxiously looking around for a single woman that they would never meet. I was proud that I was the winner, but disgusted by her callous behavior. Still, she was attractive, so I hung in there.

On our second date, she revealed that she was still married, to a cop, though they weren't living together anymore. She also introduced me to one of her female friends,who was on a date with a really big guy, like pro football player size. Later that night, she encouraged me to go dance with yet other woman who had a fantastic body. I thought the whole situation was weird, but I asked that other woman to dance and ended up getting her number. Then I went back to the first woman, and it became obvious that she was scheming to steal her friend's big date. Too much drama. I never went out with her again, though I did date the dancing woman for a while.

Anyway, that whole mess would be an example of too many dates. Seeing different women on different nights for first dates is no big deal. And speed-dating is just a lame gimmick.

[Boisdevie]

Doesn't sound like too many dates to me. Once I had a date on Saturday afternoon and another one on Saturday evening. And why not?

[steviej]

Why not exactly.

Op, it'll improve your social skills no end! You'll be comfortable and confident meeting new people the more dates you go on, which will definitely help the pulling technique ;-)

[maxmax]

Yeah, I can see that there are definite benefits, but I'm also thinking that I might start 'juggling' things about too much.

Well, no harm in trying. And yes, it's not as though my dating skills don't need some brushing up, so I'm just going to go with the flow ...

Hopefully it will be fun :o)

[maxmax]

It's good to get out there but I found going a a few dates in a week pretty exhausting
Ps you free tues lol

Already booked up!

How about Weds? ;o)

[emily25]

haha can I take mon?

[maxmax]

haha can I take mon?

OK ... but we're splitting the bill ;o)

I'm gonna be so broke by the end of this month.

Yesterday was really good too and we're meeting again next week. Almost tempted to cancel on tonight's date but thinking it might be a little short notice now ...

[emily25]

hahaha. cheapskate. Did you pay for everything?

[maxmax]

hahaha. cheapskate. Did you pay for everything?

Well, I usually offer to pay, and certainly don't hang around waiting for the girl to cough up the cash ... lol

If they offer to pay their way, then that's fine, and if anything, those who offer get extra points as opposed to those who think the guy should pay for everything. I wish I were rich, but alas, that is not so, but I don't mind taking the bulk of the cost on dates.

[eo_ih]

I'm rubbish at juggling different girls, but sometimes (like now) I end up with two or more who I am "seeing". I don't hide it, and if anything it encourages them. Sooner or later I will stop hanging out with one (or both) of them, but until then I'm not going to make any kind of decision.

I've never been sleeping with more than one girl at a time... but then I've never had the chance...