Well if your future husband lets his best friend get away with dissin and talkin trash about you, your guy doesn't respect you either. If I was ever dating someone who didn't defend and supported me, I would definitely would never have kids or marry the prick. Girl you have no dignity or self respect! You have been receiving abuse from him and yes neglect is abuse. Your relationship has gone through some crappy times....for good reason.....it should have been over years ago. Like heartIsaching quoted....good luck on a short marriage.