How to seduce a man??? Get him to be more intimate??

[lostnconfused22]

Can I please have some tips??? Try and get him to have a bubble bath or cuddle or something?? Ways to get him off the computer???

[tremolo]

Ways to get him off the computer???

LOL - Good luck!

[lostnconfused22]

Yeh tell me about it I keep asking him but he just sais hes studying arggghhh... so frustrated lol

[pisces25]

Lost if he isn't feeling an intimate connection with you it is very unlikely your attempts to seduce him will be successful. I refer to your other post that I saw. You can try the whole dressing up in sexy lingerie, grab him and go thing but the fact is if he isn't feeling it in his mind it won't make a difference. He may do it to so it will get you off his case but you need him to be WANTING to do it.

You need to find out WHY he is rejecting your advances. If it is because he is studying or stressed out then it may be a case of you having to be patient until exams are over. Or maybe he watchs a lot of porn and masturbates and has nothing left for you? There is a plethora of reasons for his behaviour. You need to tell him how unwanted you feel and how much it is affecting your relationship. If he is not willing to acknowledge there is a problem and put the effort in to work on it then I am sorry to say he doesn't value the relationship.

[sadie_genie]

You are scaring me. Is this how life is to move in with your lover?!

[lostnconfused22]

Well I have asked him a few things but he just keeps saying that he is studying.. which is fine.. but our sex life is shit all the time... i stopped half way through last time so dont know how he felt about that... but he just wasnt into it... i dont want to sleep with a man that isnt into having sex with me... we did get into a bit of a fight on the weekend though... i have aploigised though... arghh... i just want some passion in my smassion lol

[Boisdevie]

If your sex life is shite then you need to have a BIG conversation with him and tell him, not US. Why not just dump him if it's so crap?

[pisces25]

He obviously isn't getting it that you are upset about your sex life and you need to tell him. Directly. He needs to know your relationship is in danger of ending because of it. If he doesn't know things will continue just as they are and you will become more and more frustrated. Your angst at the situation will manifest in all areas of the relationship and if you don't address it things will end anyway. Trust me I have been in your shoes. It is a horrible feeling. Your focus and neediness on sex will have the opposite effect of what you intend and push him away even further. He needs to tell you what is wrong and if he can't you need to be brave enough to walk away.

[lostnconfused22]

Good advice thank you. I will try and have the talk to him tonight.