My best friend has a girlfriend...

[lilgmn]

Okay, so please no criticism. I have this friend who I can honestly say knows me inside out. We used to talk all the time and text constantly. He would call me whenever he needed anything and vise versa. About a year ago, he told me he loved me, more than a friend. That same day, I went over to his house and we talked and ended up having sex. It was amazing, and I found out that I loved him too. Then he got weird and told me a week later how I felt if he had a girlfriend? I was shocked and confused. I told him that. He said that he loved me but wasn't ready for me. That he still likes to play around and doesn't want to hurt me. So he ended up having this girlfriend for about two months and broke it off. There I go again, hoping. We started the whole friends with benefits thing. For about eight months. Then out of nowhere he gets distant again. He told me that he really loves this girl and that we had to stop what we were doing because he didn't want to hurt her. So I cried and got so angry and just distanced myself from him. About a week ago, he called me up saying he needed my advice and that I was the only friend he could count on. Now he tells me all his relationship problems, about how he loves holding and kissing his GF and all these other things. And I try to pretend it doesn't hurt but it does. Soo much. I want to be a good friend and be there for him. But now he only ever calls me when he needs something and never asks how I am doing. It's a one-sided friendship and it's hurting me. What do I do? I need advice.

[confusius]

Either he is a confused bastard (pardon my french) or he is just playing with you. I will go with the latter.

[MaidenMinx]

I've been where you are. Cut your losses and move on. He likes you but not enough to be with you and if it isn't this girlfriend now it will be another down the track.

[Purrzzzzzz]

tell him about some problems you are having with a potential bf... you dont have to say that its a REAL bf .. see what his reaction is...

[lilgmn]

Thank you everyone...I especially like the first one..."He is just playing with you." That's what I'm thinking...thanks again...all this helped so much