what is my ex up to here?

[firefly88]

the other day I was sat behind my ex in lectures, and I noticed that when he logged on to fb my fb chat tab was up - but I Haven't spoken to him on this for about 2 months. there were no other tabs there. therefore he must have had this tab up for a long while during study leave/ had it up the night before lectures and left it there.

I found it a bit wierd- as he broke up with me and goes out of his way to avoid/ ignore me, yet that was there- what's going on?
Its been a year now.

If i ever try and talk to him on chat / or in real life he just goes all awkward and tried to run away asap, short answers, unemotive and cold. But he incessantly watches me from across rooms and I see him looking for me in crowds to orient himself to face me, like he always wants to know where I am :\

please someone help me with this- what's going on in his head...

thank you x

[ColdWorldCoast]

Either

A) He misses you, likes you, desires you, but doesn't know how to speak to you without bringing up past awkwardness.

B) He's a secret Spy

C) he's a stalker

D) He's horny, and faps to your pictures on FB frequently.

E) all of the above (?)

[firefly88]

A) He misses you, likes you, desires you, but doesn't know how to speak to you without bringing up past awkwardness. - this would be my preferred option, i just dont understand why he doest even try any more... after we bork up a friend asked him how he was doing and he said "its just so much harder to be friends than I thought...." and said he was nervous of talking to me - do you think this may b it? avoiding me as a form of self preservation?

B) He's a secret Spy - lol

C) he's a stalker - maybe...

D) He's horny, and faps to your pictures on FB frequently. - haha I'd take that as a complement

E) all of the above (?)[/QUOTE]

[ColdWorldCoast]

If you like him, and you know that he's shy around you, then take the first step .

Evidently it's going to have to be a bit more than "Hey, how's it going" and "what are your plans this weekend"
maybe give him a hug and ask him if you can talk in privet.

or if you want to go to the extreme you could run up and passionately kiss him, that'd probably break the ice and let him know you're still interested.

[Wakeup]

His actions mean sweet fk all other than what YOU want to read into them. He's your ex. You've been broken up for a year. It's about time you blocked and deleted him from all social networking sites and started to get over him by stopping to communicate and wishing about him or that he'd come back. If he wanted to be with you he'd have contacted you by now and made it quite clear what he wanted. Remember: "He goes out of his way to avoid me."

Time to let go so you can concentrate on your studies (instead of fb while in a lecture) and on some new guy or guys that actually may want to be in your company.

[Cerby]

Wakeup's harsh words are the best once again.

The only reason you're even asking this is because you sat behind him (likely on purpose) and were invading his privacy while he was screwing around instead of learning. There is nothing to read into because his actions weren't towards you. Sure its odd that he has a chat window open, but since no chat was happening, its completely irrelevant.

Avoid him, don't sit behind him, and just work on moving on. This is a nothing situation unless/until he contacts you first.

[firefly88]

Actually, HE sat in front of me, hence why I was surprised to begin with and it was my friend who pointed out the tab initally NOT me, as I was being good and listening to the lecture! I have moved on, I have a bf - his seeming lack of moving on is what is causing me to ask this question as I want to do something to help him
x

[Wakeup]

Leave him alone. He's ignoring your emails and he avoids you in the halls. There is absolutely no proof or indication that he has not moved on from you. It is not your responsibility to look after him now and if you really want him to be okay, you will stop all contact with him.. do not email him again and block and delete him from your fb page. That is the most kind thing you could do for him (if in the very odd chance you are right about what you are thinking).