My first post!
I've been in a relationship (not married) for over 5 years and have a wonderful 3 year old. For the last couple of years our relationship has been strained and we've had the "should we split up" conversation several times to date. Every time, until now, we've decided we should attempt to make it work (setting rules etc) and so we have stayed together only for our relationship to drift back to the way it was. We can just never break what seems to be a vicious circle. So, 2 weeks ago, after another one of them conversations, we decided that it would be best if my partner should move out with our child. Before she moved in with me she had serious financial problems which I've continued to help her out with but this means she'll leave the relationship with very little. My partner has decided that although she can stay with her parents, she insists that this is only a temporary measure until she finds alternative accommodation provided by the local Council given her financial situation. I'm happy to provide financial support but I don't think I could provide enough to keep them both comfortable.
We both have agreed that although we still have feelings for each other if we did not have a child we would no longer be in a relationship. However, my partner wants to give it yet another try but I'm struggling to see how we can continue as we are. My mind is a wreck and everything is so mixed up I just don't know whats right from wrong. I would attempt to try again for the sake of our son but in my heart I know that this is not right; he deserves a happy family too. People tell me that life is too short to carry on but I'd hate to think where my son will end up and what he will think of me when he gets older. Is it right to stay in a relationship just for the sake of the wellbeing of your child? Do I give our relationship another try to see if it will work? I agree that life is too short but this is all far from an easy decision to make.
Any advice please??