Is going to turn into something?

[jsw]

Hi everyone, hoping i can get some help.

I have been seeing this girl for about 6 weeks now. I have had so much fun with her and things have been great on both sides. I started to talk to her about having an exclusive relationship, to which she responded that she isnt looking for anyone else either, but that she likes that there is no pressure, etc.

She is younger (21, I am 24), and we each have gotten out of a long term relationship where we have been dumped, although hers has only been about three months ago. We moved slow at first, but have since kissed and made out, and probably could go further, although this is not what this question is about.

She had since texted me saying that she was "glad we had that talk and that she likes me a lot and that everything has been perfect, I just need some more time before i get into something really serious. Dont think that means im looking for someone else"

I have no reason not to trust her, but she does still hang around with her exes since they have the same close group of friends. ALso has had several of her 'friends' try to get with her recently..

Lately I have realized that i do really like her a lot. I have taken her to ball games, nights in the city, cooked her dinner, flowers, etc. So my question is do i read into her text, and how long before I revisit the issue or start to date other people?

[devonbrown]

You want it to last and not just be a rebound. I would keep doing what you are doing without pressuring her to make a commitment. Be careful to not fall into a friends-zone though. Make sure things stay romantic.

As for your "friends" trying to get with her... I would suggest looking for new friends...

And until you are committed to her, keep your options open. There is no reason for you to commit to someone who isn't committed to you.

Good luck.

[duffymoon]

Detatch yourself a little,dont text her as often,if she texts you give it some time before you reply.Spend less time with her,the saying absence makes the heart grow fonder is true.If shes genuinely interested in you she will realise it,the worst thing you can do is pressurise her.

[jsw]

Thanks... And I probably should have made it clearer that her friends are the ones trying to hook up with her, not mine

[devonbrown]

Oh, sorry. I misread that about the friends... The most you can do about that is just to trust her. If you don't trust her, then you don't have much of a chance for a future with her anyway.

Good luck.