should i tell him i still like him?

[milkshake]

I dated this guy for couple months now and I met him online; it's sorta like an on and off relationship. I think its because of my insecurities that I don't know how to put trust into our relationship. he continued to date other girls, but he was honest with me and said he liked me the most. But when it came to him asking me to move in with him in the future, I got scared and I didn't know what to say and told him I can't cuz my parents said no. We kinda stop talking after that and then suddenly he asked me if I went clubbing cuz i put it on facebook and then we just talked again. We went to the acquarium with his friends and we sorta kissed and laid on his shoulder when I fell asleep.

I want to tell him upfront that I still have feelings for him, about 2 weeks ago he said he liked me and he liked me the most from the other girls he dated in the past. But I didn't know how to respond. He still tells me about his dates and how it didn't work well and he wasn't going to see them anymore. He even asked if I seen other guys and I told him I did go out with a guy, but that was just hang out not actually a date date. Then he told me that he was seeing this girl who was really fun and he said it was one of his best dates ever and now I dunno if I should tell him how I feel. If he put it that way, then it means he must really like her. I think he dated her not too long ago... should i still tell him I like him and tell him about my insecurities. After all this, we are still talking to each other. Is there a reason to still talk, if he said she was really fun? Does that make him like him? or is he making me jealous and trying to see how I respond?

should i messaged him on facebook or aim chat? I don't wanna be rejected. =/

Btw he even asked if I wanted to go on a trip with him and his friends this week, but I can't cuz not enough car space

[devonbrown]

I don't wanna be rejected. =/

Nobody wants to be rejected. But it happens. All the time.

You need to gain a little confidence in yourself. Trust in what makes you special and interesting. And then tell him how you feel. If he doesn't like it, then your problem is solved and you will stop talking.

Just be careful that he isn't playing you. He may just be keeping you around as a backup or something. Be strong in yourself and don't let that happen.

Good luck.

[ryan87]

Yeah, if he thinks you're worth it, he wouldn't be seeing anyone else. Plus, if he wanted to be with you exclusively, he wouldn't tell you about his other dates and how much he had on them. It's sad but he might just see you as someone he can have on the side. Maybe you should just forget about him . He's not worth your time.

[Wakeup]

I dated this guy for couple months now and I met him online; it's sorta like an on and off relationship.

You mean he comes around when he wants sex and you give it to him and then he's off again until next time?

I think its because of my insecurities that I don't know how to put trust into our relationship. he continued to date other girls,

So you're part of his online dating site harem. How special.

but he was honest with me and said he liked me the most.

I'm sure he was that honest with all the others in his harem as well.

But when it came to him asking me to move in with him in the future, I got scared and I didn't know what to say and told him I can't cuz my parents said no.

Are ****ing crazy? You don't even think about moving in with a guy that you've only been in a casual sexual relationshp with for "a couple of months" you don't even know who he is or how he conducts his everyday life. How he treats people in general. Just how old are you?

We kinda stop talking after that and then suddenly he asked me if I went clubbing cuz i put it on facebook and then we just talked again. We went to the acquarium with his friends and we sorta kissed and laid on his shoulder when I fell asleep.

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I want to tell him upfront that I still have feelings for him, about 2 weeks ago he said he liked me and he liked me the most from the other girls he dated in the past. But I didn't know how to respond.

A simple "thank you, I like you too but it's too soon to be in anything else but "like" with you with our being off and on and you dating and screwing other girls. What shall we do about that?"|

He still tells me about his dates and how it didn't work well and he wasn't going to see them anymore. He even asked if I seen other guys and I told him I did go out with a guy, but that was just hang out not actually a date date. Then he told me that he was seeing this girl who was really fun and he said it was one of his best dates ever

Now, if you read that statement over and over it will likely dawn on you that first he said how the other "dates" didn't work out and he wasn't going to see them anymore and then, when you told him that you hung out with another guy... suddenly he had a girl that was really fun. The dudes a piss poor liar and is trying to manipulate you for something.

and now I dunno if I should tell him how I feel. If he put it that way, then it means he must really like her.

Oh, I see what he was trying to manipulate you for.. to make you say you likes him so he could keep you around while he still dates others, keep you part of his harem while he keeps searching for the next best thing. Make you think he was moving away from you and towards the imaginary "her."

I think he dated her not too long ago... should i still tell him I like him and tell him about my insecurities. After all this, we are still talking to each other. Is there a reason to still talk, if he said she was really fun? Does that make him like him? or is he making me jealous and trying to see how I respond?

if you really like him and you want him to be your boyfriend then you best tell him that you will not date him while he dates others. Either he's exclusively with you or its goodbye and don't talk to me again.

He'll either agree if he wants to be a steady boyfriend to you, or he'll lie and say okay but not be exclusive. In which case his actions and your gut will tell you he's a lying asswipe... or he'll run like the hills and forget your name and cell phone number really fast.

Quit playing his game and get a serious discussion going about what YOU want. If he can't give you what YOU want then why would you want to keep playing his harem game?

should i messaged him on facebook or aim chat? I don't wanna be rejected. =/

No, talk to him face to face.

Btw he even asked if I wanted to go on a trip with him and his friends this week, but I can't cuz not enough car space

Another game.. asking you to go somewhere with him when he knows there's no room for you. Makes it look like he's thinking about you all the while knowing you won't be able to tag along and cramp his style.

With every further sentence you post the more I get the vibe that you should just tell him to fvck off and leave you alone and to block and delete his game playing azz.

[The Gent]

Wakeup, I haven't been here long...but you're my favourite poster already lol. Always telling it exactly like it is.

OP, this dude sounds like the common species 'Doucheus Maximus'.

You can either A) Keep chasing him like a lovesick puppy & endure more heartache.
Or B) Drop this chicken dinner & get with a winner.

Your choice 'Extra Chocolatey Milkshake'.

[Wakeup]

Wakeup, I haven't been here long...but you're my favourite poster already lol. Always telling it exactly like it is.

OP, this dude sounds like the common species 'Doucheus Maximus'.

You can either A) Keep chasing him like a lovesick puppy & endure more heartache.
Or B) Drop this chicken dinner & get with a winner.

Your choice 'Extra Chocolatey Milkshake'.

You have some way with words. :o)

[DarkHelmet82]

"drop the chicken dinner and get with a winner" lol I like chicken