Hi
i dated a guy for 5 months. We were not exclusive and wanted to be single and have fun because we were both fresh out of 5 year relationships with other people. We would meet about once a week, have dinner sex have a great time. during the week we would keep in touch by text about our life / as friends / sometimes sexual
i knew he had some feelings for me and wasnt just using me. i also got the feeling he wouldnt have wanted me for a serious girlfriend though (or anyone else i dont think) i was ok and felt kind of the same.
then we had a fight and didnt speak for 2 months. we made up eventually and agreed to meet as friends. we met up and had a great night, got drunk, couldnt stop talking to each other had sex really great time. in the moment it was light and not akward. it is since then that i have started to like him more than that. i think about him a lot.
he still initiated calls and texts etc, and was always commenting on my facebook etc. he asked me to meet him for a coffee the other day and this is where it goes wrong : as soon as he sat down he started talking about how busy he was going to be in the future, especially with future events at night (he works at night at social events at the moment) he was going on and on about this thing and that that would mean he wouldnt be around. it made me feel pretty insecure. other than that the coffee meet was nice and friendly.
so he know where i would be last night and he was close and with other friends, he didnt text call or turn up to where i was - guys are these two things big red flags of his level of interest going down ???
my plan was going to be this: i was going to have fun with him a few more times, a few more times spending the night with him, and then i was going to let him know how i feel, that i like him more now and would like to be with him. But now i cant because i am too insecure at the moment i even have a fear that he is hoping i get the hint that he doesnt want to have sex with me anymore..
the biggest thing that is making me sad and thinking he is just not into me since recently, is that just before this weekend when we met, after we left each other he sent me a text saying ''have a great weekend!'' when basically this weekend there were a million opportunities for him and me to meet up at night, day time (because we are going to the same summer concerts and events going on) on the other hand the night before that he sent me a slightly romantic text at 3am even though he knew i was out of town and could nt meet up.
I am confused. Lastly he is commenting less on my facebook, i am getting less messages from him.
Can he sense i started to like him?? Does he think about me if i think about him this much? or does it not work that way.....
i know i might get some responses 'you have to tell him how you feel simple as that' BUT lately as i have explained i get the feeling he might be trying to let me down gently. And a lot of the time i think you know what he would have asked me out if he wanted me for more. So i couldnt approach him with that i like him if he is not into me anymore , i am not THAT brave lolll
Any ideas guys? THANK YOU SO MUCH REALLY APPRECIATE MANS OPINION ON THIS ONE! XX