hi
First time here, so be gentle. I'm confused about stuff and need someone elses view on the situation.
I met a guy, hes been in my group of friends for a while now, but only became single in December last year. I met him in April and we hit it off straight away. Same tastes in music, same views on life, marriage, babies etc. Hes like a mirror image of me.
We started hanging out and stuff. Normally ending up sleeping (as in sharing a bed not sex), together. Hes very affectionate, we've been out to places and he likes to hold my hand etc. Hes done things like stay up late and cook me dinner (something none of my exs have ever done) and even sit through a play because I wanted to see it. His words; "he wants to make me happy".
We both value "me" time, so apart from the odd chat online, I don't hear much from him during the week. Then we spend the weekends together. It has escalated to sex, neither of us do one night stands and had this discussion about it before it happened. We dont always have sex, sometimes just hang out and cuddle.
A few days later we were out and were a little drunk and I asked him out, he said he didn't want to make a decision drunk and that he wanted to make sure he really likes someone completely.
That was a month ago, since then we've carried on seeing each other at weekends and odd weekdays.
My problem is he rants about being on his own and not wanting anything, about enjoying being on his own, so why does he phone me every weekend to come round? he says its because he "thinks I'm brilliant, that he wants to spend time with me".
We went out with friends for the first time on Friday and halfway through the night, I was asked "how long have you 2 been together?" I thought we'd not acted in a way to make anyone think that. I mentioned it to him and he seemed to go weird about it. At first he smiled, then he backed away. 5 mins later he came back for a hug.
He also told me that "**** buddies" in general never work, as someone always gets attached, so what do we have?
So, what do you think?