I'm gonna try to keep this as short as possible. My BF and I had been dating for about 6 months, 3 exclusively and then we broke up two weeks ago, well maybe three weeks ago at this point. It was somewhat mutual but more so on his end than mine. I was getting fed up with his behavior and he was just too stressed to deal with our relationship. I deal with this stuff best by moving on so I reactivated an old online profile I had on a dating site. A few days later I meet and start talking to someone and we set up a date for the coming week. We talked every night and morning all week up to and after the date. It went really well and we have had two dates since.
Last weekend though, my ex-BF shows up (when his friend should have) to give me my things I left at his house because he wanted to see me and wanted to try to talk things out. Long story short, he feels like he made a huge mistake, he wants to get back together, he's really sorry for his behavior, it was just stress, etc......
I was falling in love with him. None of my friends really liked him but they didn't know him they just know him through what I've told them and I usually only vent to them so they mostly know the bad things. Needless to say they all want me to stick with dating this new guy and not go back to the ex-BF. The new guy has a lot of potential, we get along great, we have a lot in common and he really has his life together from what I can tell (although you never really know). Then there is my ex-BF who I care very deeply for. Saying his life is a mess is an understatement! But I have more fun with him than I've ever had with anyone. When we are together everything is great and our chemistry is amazing, again nothing I've had with anyone in a very very long time.
I just don't know what to do and I would love some advice. I feel like each day that passes the new guy is getting closer to wanting to be exclusive and the ex keeps moving forward like we are back together even though I've never said we were. I don't know if me and the new guy could have the same feelings I have for the ex, do I take that chance or do I go back to what I wanted undeniably a month ago and hope all this doesn't happen again? I'm so confused.
I know now I shouldn't have tried to move on so quickly but I was upset and really just wanted to reaffirm to myself that I could still find someone else, that losing him didn't mean I would be alone forever Now I've made this mess I'm in.