Need Advice

[vitalsigns]

I went through a break up recently with my girlfriend of two yearss The break up wen ton for about 2 months. Really painful, drawn out process. Two weeks ago was when it ended for good. Basiclly she did something that really really hurt me and I said a few mean things and told her not to contact me again. I sent her an email the next day apolgising for the things I said and she emailed back saying she needed to step away from the situation, I said I needed to too.

Anyways Last week I emailed her asking when I can expect to get my things back a couple times and she kept telling me she would send them on the bus the next day but she never did. So this week I sent her a text asking again when, she said I could come get them back from her and then we had a short, civilized, convo in which I mentioned I would be going away for a few days later this week. Anyways about 10 minutes after the convo she text me saying she would just send them on the bus since it would be easier. I said fine. She never did send them.

First I'm not sure if she does want me to come get my things from her, but that's not my main issue. Yesterday morning she sent me an email saying
"Wow totally weird dreams last night.. All about you
I guess this means no more hummus before bed
Have a good time in <place I'm going> "

Then 30 minutes later she text me
"Why can't I stop dreaming about you"

A couple hours later she blew up my phone with texts saying "I miss you alot" and "I miss this" and "I miss that".
And then later in the evening she sent me another text saying "I miss you"
Then at around midnight she sent me a text asking me I had gotten her messages.

It's a day later and I havn''t responded to anything.
I would like to give us a second chance but before I do responde I'd like to know shes not just lonley and trying to get me to respond to stroke her own ego.

Any suggestions on what to say or not to say?

[Majanich]

Well you two were together for a long time, of course she is lonely and misses you. However not knowing her... some girls just always need to be in a relationship and are lost when they aren't in one. She must have sent you a lot of texts... so either she really misses you, wants to be back with you, or both. But after breaking up, a relationship is hard to begin again and they won't be the same, odds are you end up getting hurt more in the long run. (Personal experience.)

However you need to think of the pros and the cons of being with her and decide if a second chance is better than moving on, so good luck there!

As of what to say to her? Well, do you miss her? You could bring up the possibility of being back together and if the pros out way the cons. Ultimately you have to follow your heart and just be honest with her about how you feel. Hope this helped!

[marea.johnson]

Well u should give her a second chance...ya you are geting confuse wheter to give her chance to come back in your life or not///but what i think girls never forget their first love even after breakup also...their may be a time when you both get together again ...so just understan what she is expecting from you...then after decide with cool mind

[Brenda81]

Before making any decision, you have to think over what was the reason of breaking up. If there was some realy serious reason, there is a great possibility to break up soon after being together again. It is very important not to live in memories of your relationship, but to think and analyse the relationship like a psychologist. This is the moment to activate your brain and not the hart. It is easy to say, hard to do, but will bring you to the right solution.