How do I help?
I have a wonderful best friend who has horrible luck with relationships. She is going through a long drawn out break up and is understandably depressed. This is her 4th break up in 8 years.
I'm really scared for her. She would like to end her life and keeps talking about it. Not how she's going to do it, but the fact that she thinks it's unfair that it's illegal and that if you believe your life to be well and truly crap you should be able to take your own life. I completely and utterly disagree and actually end up angry with her every time she talks to me like this. I can't help but tell her how selfish it is and how much I would hate her for ever if she took the cowards way out. I am a strong believer in the idea that you can choose how you feel and while it's not easy, once you get the hang of it it gets easier. I want to see her try. She tells me how unfair it is that the best reason that people can give her to not end her life is that it would make other people sad. That's when I desperately try to impress upon her that suicide doesn't just make people sad, it devastates them. I try to tell her how lucky she is to have so much family that loves her, how lucky she is that she's got a great job, she says she doesn't care. She simply doesn't care.
How do I help her realise that heartbreak isn't the end of the world, it just feels like it? I have been really tempted to call her bluff and ask her how she'd do it, and all but give her permission. Sometimes I feel like that's exactly what she's asking for though.
'People are never perfect but love can be. People waste time looking for the perfect lover rather than creating the perfect love' - Princess Leigh-Cheri from Still Life With Woodpecker.