That's too bad, you seem like you could be a nice guy who would make a nice boyfriend for some girl; but for that.
Good for you.
I never said porn was used for badness or is bad. I don't mind porn. It is how it effects me when I know my bf watches it that upsets me and he knows it upsets me. That is what hurts. He knows it upsets me yet he still will do it. It is like my feelings really don't matter.
I just wanted to know why men use it and what is going through their heads. Also if it means they don't find their gfs as attractive as the porn stars.
Also I believe you can learn some techniques from porn but you can't really know what works unless you are practicing on a live women as she can tell you whether it is doing anything for her or not. Also every woman is different. What works for one may not neccesarily work for another.
Kat your problem isn't porn. Your problem is your guy has somehow lost his emotional connection with you. You guys need to get away for a power weekend of romance and seduction and intimate conversations with one another. Porn is the last of your worries.
“The willingness to accept responsibility for one’s own life is the source from which self-respect springs.” ~Joan Didion
Agreed:
Have you never watched the HBO Series "Sparticus," Kat? The emperor and his wife/mistress (whatever) used slaves for their sexual viewing pleasure. They'd get turned on by the scene and they'd release their pent up sexual desire on each other.
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“The willingness to accept responsibility for one’s own life is the source from which self-respect springs.” ~Joan Didion
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Conventionally, it is men who use women for sex and then decide whether they will give her the relationship that she conventionally wants.
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That's not true. Wanting a relationship is a two way street...look at the majority of nice guy posts, wanting a relationship with a girl that is using them as their emotional tampon and getting rejected after. Remember it's us women who decide if and when men will get sex, hence the reason for prostitution.