Hi there. I'm new.
I don't usually post on these, but I'd really like some advice right now.
My boyfriend and I have been together for about a year, and we've known each other for about 6 years. We love each other very much, but being sensitive to my feelings is not one of his strong suits. Though he is 31 and I am 25, neither of us have very much experience in serious relationships. So here I am.
He has a best friend, who is a girl, and she lives out of town. I know this girl (she also has a boyfriend) and I like her alot. We aren't really close, but I think she's really cool. My boyfriend (lets call him Sam) and this girl (lets call her Sue) visit each other often. She is in town now, and I recently brought up the question of if they sleep in the same bed when she visits. Sam replied that they sleep wherever is convenient, and that they have fallen asleep together in a bed on several occasions. He explained it was nothing more than a "sleepover" vibe and that their friendship is absolutely nothing to worry about.
Now she's in town, and we all made plans to go to an event after i got off work. I ended up getting signals crossed and left out of the whole ordeal. The two of them stopped by my apartment at 11pm that night to bring me a "present" of a dvd i wanted, and then they left to go to his house. He lives with a grandmother, whom this girl is very close to, and she wanted to visit her.
I don't know how I should feel about this. I've tried to be understanding, and I honestly do think that there is no infidelity going on.
I guess I also believe that intimacy does not always = sex. And this level of intimacy feels inappropriate. Thoughts please?