I still love her

[jason37]

First of all, thanks for taking the time to read my story... hope someone can gimme some advice.
About 8 months ago I met a girl at work. She worked in the same place. I fell madly in love with her,
and it was obvious she was interested too. I couldn't believe my luck with such a beautiful person...
We flirted for a few months (pretty long), until a work related outing came up. We both got pretty drunk
at it, and as I left the place, I made out with her. I felt on top of the world after that, everything seemed
to be falling into place for me. She stayed for a while after I left. The morning after I texted her
saying how much fun it had been and that we should hang out together sometime soon, to which she replied
"I have exams the coming 2 weeks but after that I'd like to x". So whatever, I figured I'd keep
in touch once in a while and see where it went. The next time I saw her, I decided to bring the night up.
I had already heard she got so drunk she didn't remember alot but not from her. I asked her about the night
and me leaving, to which she said she didn't remember any of it. Feeling really pissed off and disappointed,
I left the room and went back to work. After that, things were awkward between us, and we lost contact. She
got fired in the meantime so she no longer works there. I never talked to her about it because the situation
was just really bad. She heard from other people that she'd kissed me. I for some dumb reason thought she was
just making it up, seeing she didn't seem to be drunk enough to pass out and forget things like that yet, but she stayed
for hours after that so I guess it's possible. She confessed to a friend of mine that she was in love with me also,
but was disappointed and pissed at me for thinking she was lying and that she wasn't like that. Since then, we're in
some sort of a silent fight. I rarely see her, when I do she says hi but that's about it. Those months not seeing her was the
worst time of my life, in which I realised I really missed and loved her. It's still all I think about. I heard later that
during the no contact time, she felt bad about it also.
Just around the time I figured I wanted to end the fight and talk to her about it, I found out she now has a boyfriend who
she seems to be happy with...

SO, what do I do? On the one hand, I love her so much that I want her to be happy (even if it's with him), but on the other, I sometimes feel like
there's still part of her that's sorry for the situation and that wants to resolve it. I can't take
the fact that I'm in such a fight with a person I love so much... I feel like things will feel unresolved if I don't
do something about it and I at least want to apologise and talk to her about it.

What would you do? Any advice is appreciated. Thanks.

[bamathrasher]

I signed up here to get advice, but I've always been better at seeing what needs to be done for other people then in my own messed up personal life.

I'm normally not a fan of pursuing girls with boyfriends, but I don't think it would be being fair to yourself if you didn't tell her your true feelings if you feel that deeply about it. Just don't go into it expecting her to drop everything for a relationship, as I think that might be setting yourself up for more heartbreak.

[HeartIsAching]

You played games instead of honest communications with her, and were so distrustful of her that you didn't believe what she told you.

This is pretty much what happens when you play games and have no trust. I'm sorry, but that's pretty much it for you right now.

[jason37]

Thanks for the replies. Yeah, I know I ****ed up bad...
I guess the question of what I should do is a personal thing, just like judging from the replies here, some people tell me I should leave her to be happy with him,
others say that I should at least talk to her about it and hope she'll forgive me. Not sure what I'll do yet.