Is it even possible?

[jasminexx]

This is my second post, my first was titled "what a tangled web I weaved", if your interested in some background information.

So my ex-boyfriend wants to try to be in a relationship with me again. And I do still have feelings for him and never really got over him since our break up (which was over a year ago). And since I've dated one other person this during this year, my ex doesn't really trust me anymore because I've lied about being in another relationship. But just to be clear I didn't cheat on him, I guess I just led him on, when I wasn't ready to be with him again. So in order for him to give me another try, he wants me to completely cut off this other guy from my life.

The problem is I don't know if I have it in me to do so. Because the other guy now has become a big part of my life. The other guy goes to my church, works with me, and we teach dance lessons together. And I am honestly a weak person who acts quickly on her emotions. It's unfortunate I know. So being around the other guy all the time will be really hard and painful for a while. And I'm sure we'll end up talking to each other and maybe even hanging out at first at least.

So I don't know what to do or how to handle this or what to tell my ex. Because as of right not I wouldn't say Im 100% on board with his requirements. Any suggestions about what to do?

[Cerby]

I've learned a lot from this forum. One of those lessons is that if you're an emotionally charged person, you're going to do what you want, regardless of what the advice we give you is.

Here goes anyways: You relationship failed originally for a reason, over the last year you've forgotten those reasons and only want him back because you remember why he made you happy. You'll leave this new guy for your ex (and you will, no matter what we say), you'll realize why it ended and quickly try to escape again. If the new guy respects himself he'll cut you right out and he'll be gone.

You'll be back here in 3 months with a post titled "My boyfriend is a jerk and my ex won't talk to me".


You need to forget your ex and move forward with your life.

[devonbrown]

Um, go back over to your other post and re-read what I wrote there. Thanks.

[jasminexx]

I have and I understand, but its so incredibly hard.

I just feel like maybe we should have never broken up in the frist place. We never argued in the past or anything. And I just can't get rid of this idea in my head that's saying, "He's the one. He wouldn't have waited for me for a year if he wasn't". He went through so much to try and get me back and I feel like, any guy who trys that hard and is trying to be so forgiving, has to be a great guy and has to be the one for me.

[BackUpOrGetStng]

If you are not ready to cut this other person out of your life, then don't get back with your ex. He made himself and his terms clear, so don't go into another relationship unless you're on board with those terms.