I'm so confused!

[Beautifu11]

Hello everyone, I am new here. I joined this site to get different opinions on my situation and also to help others.

Well.....I have an ex boyfriend that I was with for 5 years. A couple of moths ago, he just stopped coming around and calling me and I had no idea why. After about 5 failed attempts to get in touch with him, I quit. I refuse to chase anyone down so I gave up. A few months after that I heard rumors that he had another girlfriend who was driving around in his car and he was always with. I didn't believe it so I text his phone because I wanted to know what was going on once and for all. His girlfriend started texting my phone telling me that she was pregnant and they lived together. I was devastated. I couldn't stop dreaming, thinking, and worrying about him. I figured it was time to move on so I started dating a good friend that I'd known for a while. But I still couldn't get my ex out of my head. It's been a whole year now. A few days ago, my cousin called me out the blue (he lives near my ex.) he said he had spoken to him and he could tell that he still has feelings for me and he was stalking me on facebook. He said he wanted to talk but was upset about hurting me and didn't know how to face me. So, I sent him a text that night telling him that it was ok for him to cal mel and we started talking about how our lives have been. The feelings I have for him have never gone away and I am still very much in love with him. I told him how hurt I was and I wanted to know why he left me. He told me that he didn't know his girlfriend was texting me and she was lying about everything she said. He apologized to me he said he never meant to hurt me and promised to God he would never hurt me again. He said he left because he didn't feel loved by me anymore and he needed more out of a relationship than what I was giving. I admit.....I was too busy for him and the relationship was kinda falling apart. He says he still has strong feelings for me but he feels like I deserve better than him because he doesn't want to hurt me anymore. We talked on the phone for hours. Hours after we hung up, I sent him a text saying "I still love you with all of my heart....I hope you know that." He never responded and a whole day has gone by. Why would he just not respond, text, or call at all? I'm so confused because I have a boyfriend that I love but not as much as I love my ex. I don't know what do do, where I should start, or if I should just move on. Any advice would be appreciated.

[jnr1005]

Maybe he is at work? Or maybe the new girlfriend deleted it? Give it a day or so and see what happens. Maybe a call instead of txt would be best bc then you know he got it.

[devonbrown]

Ok... think about this: After 5 years, your boyfriend just disappears. No word, no explanation, just up and leaves. Then you hear that he has another gf and that she may be pregnant. Then, a year later, the guy tells you that he misses you.

Stop talking to this guy. Cut him out of your life. Go no contact completely. Block him on facebook. Lose his number. Do whatever you need to do to keep him out of your life.
You miss him. You still love him. Okay, I got that. But it doesn't matter. He didn't care enough about your relationship (FIVE years in) to talk to you about what was bothering him and he left. (If you believe his story now, which I am not sure I do. He probably is going through a rough time with his baby mama and is interested in getting some from you like before.)

You didn't get closure, which is normally a crock of s**t I think, but maybe that is why you are still thinking about him. So get closure. Break up with him. You send him a message telling him to leave you alone and you will do the same.

It is time to move on with your respective lives. This guy has red flags coming out of his butt! Run away from him.

[bulrush]

Well.....I have an ex boyfriend that I was with for 5 years. A couple of moths ago, he just stopped coming around and calling me and I had no idea why.

How extemely rude.

After about 5 failed attempts to get in touch with him, I quit. I refuse to chase anyone down so I gave up.

This one is clearly not worth chasing.

(Bunch of stuff how the ex has a new squeeze.)
Hours after we hung up, I sent him a text saying "I still love you with all of my heart....I hope you know that." He never responded and a whole day has gone by. Why would he just not respond, text, or call at all? I'm so confused because I have a boyfriend that I love but not as much as I love my ex. I don't know what do do, where I should start, or if I should just move on. Any advice would be appreciated.

He does have feelings for you but he knows it will never work out. That's it. It's still over. You should just move on.