My boyfriend I have been together 6 and a half years. Things have always been up and down between us. But the last year had been wonderful, we were gettting on better than ever, he proposed to me last October and and I planned to move in with him once I finish my course this September.
Over the last few months we started planning the wedding and I had never been so happy or excited. We sorted the venue (a family friends land so was free) and decided on a date and I booked the church (cost me 75 quid). I was so happy that I could barely contain myself. I wanted to tell the world about how lucky I was. I posted on facebook 'let the countdown begin' and some people guessed what the countdown was to. My boyfriend completly flippes out saying the it was unreasonable for me to post about the wedding on facebook and said that �t unerved him about happy the idea of marrigae made me''. He then said that he doesn't want to marry me anymore.
It isn't as simple as it being over though as he still says he wants to be with me and wants me to move in with him in September. I was completly devasted by him calling off the wedding and almost ended it right there. Also he lives on a canal boat which I dont really want to live on but I was willing to comprimise for him.
I'm so sure about what I want for my future (a house, getting married and children) but he is happy on the boat (but said he would like a house one day), doesn't want to marry me now, but does want children. Maybe how I feel is silly and old fashioned but even though I want children I don't want them to be born to unmarried parents and I definatly dont want them living on a boat. Are our thoughts for the future too different?
Also since he called off the wedding (about 2 weeks ago) I haven't been feeling the same about him, even though i still love him something has gone. He isn't be best friend anymore, I've hardly seen him and we have hardly had sex (which is a big deal with him). Does this mean it is already over? or can we go back to what we had before?
Please help, I really dont know what to do. Sorry this is quite long.