quick story, need answers

[jayjaym]

ok right well where to begin... i met her at a party and we got talking and straight away i knew i liked her even though she lives an hour or 2 away from me i went up to see her the night was good we kissed and spoke alot and after that i saw her at the pub with her mates and she took me aside from everyone so we could just talk and we kissed again...

So i spoke to her and asked her"what are we?" and she said friends. 2 weeks later she invited me (more than once) to a pub to see eachother and we met up but didnt kiss (apart from hug and kiss on lips when we went home) just hugged and walked around with eachother and some hand holding. Then i saw her a few nigh after with our friends and again we just spoke to eachother mostly and sat away from everyone and walked home with our arms around eachother. Then the other night i kissed her which was me making the move not her and she didnt seem to want to much but everytime i try to speak to her she says we are just friends.

I just dont get her.... all opnions are welcomed obv.

[jamie2010taylor]

Ok, first off I can tell from this that you are clearly quite into her. She on the other hand does like you but is playing 'hard to get.' it's a subconscious defence mechanism all women are hardwired for in ther early stages of meeting a guy. This whole 'we are just friends' thing is just something she's using to throw you off, that's women I'm afraid. Based on your situation in order to overcome it you have to get her to be really sexually attracted to you which at the moment if I'm honest isn't the case. This is because while you may think the one on one isolation is a good thing, girls respond to men of high social value ie the alpha male. Next time you meet up with her and her friends, trust me here spend 3 quarters of the night talking to her friends and getting to know them. If she tries to grab you away resist it as she's testing you. Tell her 'don't interrupt' in an almost condescending manner and carry on talking to her friends. She will start to want you now, make sure you are the loudest, funniest and most high energy person in that room so that when you have your final quarter of the night left turn to her and say something like 'looks like I'm free now, wanna go somewhere?' she will feel far more valued and special now that she has your attention. Remember your not ignoring her here your just making her wait for your time while your socialising. You also need to stop asking are we in a relationship, trust me you'll know when you are and if you use this method it will be sooner than you think.

Hope I've helped mate,

[devonbrown]

She says that you are only friends, so that is all you can assume at this point. The only way to know for sure is to do something revolutionary - ask her out. On a date. Just the two of you. Not a meetup at a pub. Not a party with friends. Just you. And her. Dinner somewhere nice. Maybe a walk afterwards. Or maybe a drink somewhere private. But definitely a date. Make sure that is clear.
If she says no, you pretty much know you are friends with the occasional benefit and she isn't looking at you as a possible romantic partner. If she says yes, then you have a date.

Good luck.

[bulrush]

When a women gives a message that says "we are just friends", I move on. I don't play games. This sounds like a girl who simply wants to kiss, and nothing more.