I couldnt take it anymore, limbo, 2 rebounds, long distance, depressed. I messaged him today telling him I'm done, and am tired of being hurt and am moving on with my life. It was a kinda long conversation, but I ended things, and he begged me to stop and not to kick him out of my life. I had to go, then he wrote this letter to me via email:
I should probably be waiting until things have cooled down before writing this, but I couldn't wait.
I'm not going to try and change your mind, and this isn't about me trying to convince you I'm a better person than I actually am, but there are things I think I just need to say before you're gone from my life...
Firstly, i know I sometimes made you believe that our relationship struggled because of your insecurities, and that was wrong. I've always been weaker in that way than you, I am about ten times more insecure than i pretend to be. Honestly, the fact that you've been putting up with my shit all summer should have been more than enough to prove how committed you were, and I'm sorry i was too much of a pussy to let myself believe it.
I know I used to say this a lot, but it's still true...I've always felt like you're an infinitely better person than I am...I'm weak in a million different ways, and more selfish than I'm willing to admit. I feel sick knowing how much I've hurt you, especially when you've been trying so hard to make sense of my bullshit.
I feel like i should explain the other day when I was skyping you and Lucas kept telling me to "say it". Over the course of our time apart (as I'm sure you can imagine) most of the people in my life have been pushing me towards other girls, telling me it's the only way to get over you. I get constant grief for keeping other girls at arms length, and they all think I'm being stupid for not really pursuing anyone else with much enthusiasm. Although you dont believe me, i havent been hooking up with anyone, and trust me, i get endless shit for it. Again, I don't expect you to really believe that after everything.
Anyways, when we came here Lucas kept telling me I had to just really be single and stop holding on to you, etc. When girls here started to show interest or whatever and i kept my distance, he laid into me about it and I told him I couldn't because i still loved you.
I know I've been a ****ing jackass, and you have ever right to hate my guts.
I won't pretend I have been a selfish douche, because I have, and i have been talking/flirting with other girls just to make myself feel better.
I'm not proud of myself, and like i said, you're a far better person than I am, and i respect you for that....more that you know.
When I think about it now, it doesn't even make sense for me to be talking to anyone else. None of them have come close to living up to you, and I've known that deep down this entire summer. I constantly catch myself wanting to talk to you, not because it makes things easier, but because i know I'll never have a connection with someone else the way I did with you.
I'm going to stop because i know this doesn't change anything, but i just want you to know...you're better than anything I've been wasting my time with, and I've always known that. I'm just too scared to admit it because I'm so afraid of losing you this once you're with new people.
And for the record, you were right about all those times you told me you knew I secretly thought you were funny. You crack me up lady .
I really hope this doesnt get read when you're still livid, but I guess it doesn't matter either way. Youre a phenomenal human being, sorry for being a stupid ****.
Good luck with everything that you do in life. I truly hope you're as happy as you say you are, and I'm sorry for ever making you otherwise.
Goodbye Jess. I'll always love you...i think you already know that. Don't ever settle for less than you deserve, and stay away from asshole guys. No more "projects" like me
I'm so sad...I feel like I lost him.. I told him I was moving on so he could get scared of losing me, not just give up!..., what can I do? Hes been sad and vulnerable before when I told him I needed space, but he would just beg for me to talk to him and he would tell me to just be patient while we figure stuff out, and he would NEVER talk about the rebounds. I was in limbo and hurting... now that he's come clean, is it different this time? What should I do?