Originally Posted by
smackie9
The reason is because of the vibe you give off....vulnerable, easily swayed, a bit insecure, not the type that turns heads, welcomes any male attention. You can turn this around.....if you carry yourself as a strong, independent, untouchable female, those type of loser guys won't come near you. They will know not to f uck with you, they will feel they have no way of controlling you.
I prefer confident strong women. I avoid all the others. Because the others tend to be full of drama. (I'm not talking about anyone specific here.) I'll still keep looking. Maybe in another 18 months I will find that really good match.
Another thing, I never had the need to lie to any of my dates, all through my life, regardless of how strong my hormones were. I want an honest, equal relationship. The problem is, all of the good women seem to be taken already. I've been dating for 18 months now (about 7 women?), steadily, and just found the woman I really like, and we broke up due to different goals.
And another thing, I'm a man, I like sex, partly for physical reasons, but mostly for EMOTIONAL intimacy. It's how I feel close to someone. But most girls around me (i.e. available dates) act like a bunch of Quakers and don't want anything to do with sex, ever. I assume they are just jaded from past relationships. So that means, because my emotions are so linked to sex, I don't have one night stands. It's simply too painful.
Vampiress,
If you need to vent about men, fine, I understand that. I'm sorry some people have come off as a bit harsh towards you in this thread. But there is some good advice here. Such as:
"If it sounds too good to be true, it probably is."
What this means is find evidence to see if they (your date) are full of BS, or they are really honest.
Last edited by bulrush; 14-07-11 at 02:55 AM.
I have a long time interest in psychology, specializing in relationship dynamics for 30 years.
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