Hello people.
My girlfriend and i have been together for about 3 years now. And the first 6 months were a huge sugary sweetness fest of us being madly in love and 'perfect for each other' etc. It started to slowly drop down to a stable and affectionate relationship in which we communicated and spent time together on a daily basis.
The problem is that the past month she had a huge amount of VERY stressful exams which kinda limited our time together, i gave her the space to study and not stress her out more. She seemed less affectionate and a bit withdrawn, which is natural under those conditions.
After her last exam, friday last week, she went out clubbing with her friends to get drunk and de-stress. I sadly could not join her. I was hoping that we would atleast be able to spend more time together again after her exams and her having lots of free time. Sadly she seemed more interested in hanging out with her 'real life' friends or playing online videogames with her online friends. We still spent some time together but maybe an hour a day if i got lucky. She did seem to behave during our time together the same way she always has, random hugs, etc.
Last night as she decided to again go clubbing, first time she goes clubbing two weekends in a row in nearly 6 months, i sat down with her for a talk and i communicated my worries that she seemed less into me. She replied with "Dont know, i think maybe i am." This hit me like a slap in the face.
I asked if it was some behaviour in mine causing this or maybe the relationship getting stale. She said she wasnt sure but probably a mix of both and that "every relationship has it" .
For 3 years i have been struggling with the fear of her maybe losing interest in me and leaving me for someone else. I told her that last night and she told me she knows and that she is not dumping me.
So i asked if there is something we can do about it or if she feels this is something to be concerned about. She shrugged and said she didnt know as it is only since a week or two that she feels less into me.
I joked a little and said that if her feelings level off a bit it's fine as long as she still wants to marry me as we have been talking about since halfway in our relationship. She replied with "yeah" .
So i asked what about my behaviour might have changed or contributed to this. She said she guesses it is me being grumpy more often than before and her not finding me as funny as she used to. Which for her is a big thing as she's attracted to humor and confidence.
My grumpiness is caused by work related stress and might cause me to be more easily annoyed or upset if she is being difficult, which she admitted a while ago she is and she said it makes sense that im grumpy more easily.
I talked about my sense of humor and how we agreed a few weeks ago that if you hang around the same person every day for 3 years his/her sense of humor will grow stale and that my sense of humor has not changed much since we met. Again she replied with "yeah".
She also agreed that over the past 3 years she has changed, she has become more stable and less depressed at the cost of less bouncy-happy behaviour and sweetness.
I expressed that i wasnt sure how to take this and if our relationship is still stable and solid, maybe just getting routine. Or that maybe we have a problem developing. She wasnt sure and thinks we have to wait and see. She then added something that gave me a bit of hope: "Every relationship has a time when it gets a bit boring, less exciting and you get less attracted to the other person. If you're still happy together when it gets to that point it can last forever."
After she said that i asked her if she's still happy together with me and she confirmed that she is.
I offered to give her some space if she wants but she said "no" to that. So i said i would do what i have done the past 3 years. After which she said "alright" and gave me a hug. The conversation ended and she went to go to her own place to get ready to go out, she hugged me again and told me she would see me tomorrow.
I am sitting here in my room now, 24 hours later and i havent heard from her since, and i have no way of contacting her.
Should i be worried? Is it natural and will it be ok?